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Sounds like you are taking the right steps to get your mind in the right frame. I am a revision from band to bypass. I don't consider myself to be a slow loser. I have lost 89 pounds so far. The rny board is super supportive, I don't think it is overwhelming at all. I participate in the menu thread just about every day. I find reading what everyone else is doing is helpful in my journey. Good luck with yours!
You can't measure your achievements with someone else's yardstick!
Revision from lapband to RNY 12/26/17 with Dr. Caitlin Halbert
HW 260 SW 248 CW 154 GW 145
Gallbladder removed 9/18
Beth
Fire the judgey therapist. We aren't all judgey I promise.
Eating at night is a big sign of emotion regulation or what we call low distress tolerance. That isn't necessarily your fault, actually, but, well, goodness look at what's been going on. That is awful...I am so sorry for your loss.
My rule is we don't take things away without replacing them. Instead of eating, could you do something else? Don't laugh, but there are weighted blankets great for anxiety and PTSD that are very comforting. some people will hug them or wrap themselves in them. Have hobbies or things to keep your hands busy...things you enjoy which are not eating. I have had PTSD and nightmares so I get it...they suck, and they don't really care that I don't want to scarf donuts. If you absolutely have to eat, and yeah I feel you on the protein, have alternatives and ditch the rest. I had to be ruthless because I literally would eat anything when I had similar issues. Now I don't keep any at home because I can't. I have to get a hysterectomy within the next year or so myself.
There is nothing I can say to make things better, because they are awful, but I can say that you have made it through a lot. It may not seem like you can ever have relief from anxiety, however that doesn't mean tomorrow you won't.
The one thing I will say: be kind to yourself above all else. you deserve kindness and compassion, esp. from yourself.
You are not a bad person who is choosing to shoot themselves in the butt. You are not an eff-up. You are not terrible. You are suffering, and frankly anyone who doesn't get the power of comfort when we are suffering, especially a therapist, should hush up.
What a great post Donna!!! I have a sister that really struggles with nighttime eating and wI'm going to share what you've written to see if it helps her. Big hug.
That aligns with what I've heard about the overstich procedure, that people only lose 10-20 lbs max, if at all.
Thank you for the response. I was scoped so I know my stoma and pouch are enlarged. How does one lose weight when my pouch seems to always be empty? I don't get full. It's horrible, I blame myself some but I also blame my medicine abilify. It caused me to eat compulsively for over a year until I figured out what was happening. I need to research the best procedure for revision, I don't want to be doing this again which is why I feel the switch is forever unless I screw it up. I'm very compliant with my vitamins so I'm not too concerned about post op.
Aimee
RNY 3-1-12
RNY Revision 10-4-18
Hello. I had my GBS in 2005. After years of success (loss of 102 pound), I started slowly regaining my weight (regained about 60 pounds). I had the Overstitch in Nov 2012. I found it to be more painful than my original GBS. My throat, neck and shoulders were so tender and painful for about 1 week.
The post procedure diet was similar to the GBS post op diet regimen; liquids, progressing to pureed, then soft. By 5-6 weeks post procedure I was back to a regular diet again. However, other than about 10 pounds...I never lost weight after the overstitch procedure.
Just my experience with it, hope this helps you.
Fire the judgey therapist. We aren't all judgey I promise.
Eating at night is a big sign of emotion regulation or what we call low distress tolerance. That isn't necessarily your fault, actually, but, well, goodness look at what's been going on. That is awful...I am so sorry for your loss.
My rule is we don't take things away without replacing them. Instead of eating, could you do something else? Don't laugh, but there are weighted blankets great for anxiety and PTSD that are very comforting. some people will hug them or wrap themselves in them. Have hobbies or things to keep your hands busy...things you enjoy which are not eating. I have had PTSD and nightmares so I get it...they suck, and they don't really care that I don't want to scarf donuts. If you absolutely have to eat, and yeah I feel you on the protein, have alternatives and ditch the rest. I had to be ruthless because I literally would eat anything when I had similar issues. Now I don't keep any at home because I can't. I have to get a hysterectomy within the next year or so myself.
There is nothing I can say to make things better, because they are awful, but I can say that you have made it through a lot. It may not seem like you can ever have relief from anxiety, however that doesn't mean tomorrow you won't.
The one thing I will say: be kind to yourself above all else. you deserve kindness and compassion, esp. from yourself.
You are not a bad person who is choosing to shoot themselves in the butt. You are not an eff-up. You are not terrible. You are suffering, and frankly anyone who doesn't get the power of comfort when we are suffering, especially a therapist, should hush up.
I follow a ketogenic diet post-op. I also have a diagnosis of binge eating disorder. Feel free to ask me about either!
It is not that we have so little time but that we lose so much...the life we receive is not short but we make it so; we are not ill provided but use what we have wastefully. -- Seneca, On the Shortness of Life
Most insurance will not cover revisions unless there is a defect to the original procedure. Before you revise, review habit carefully. What are you eating daily? Even with a DS if you eat enough carby crap you may gain weight.
If a revision is warranted after, a more logical step is to revise to either the DS or something similar, because that provides further inoculation against weight gain. Having said that, you are committing to having to eat high protein and fat on an obligatory basis. With a bypass this is mildly inconvenient if we do not (though dangerous long term), but with a DS there are more serious consequences. Having said that, if you can adhere to the vitamin and food regimen most of us should post-op, while the DS one differs quite a bit, you should still be able to follow it.
Even with a large stoma, though, people still lose weight with the bypass. Most of the procedures that reduce pouch size typically don't result in long-term loss that I would consider notable. I am, however, not a doctor, so I would consult a surgeon who isn't trying to sell you overstitch or TOR procedures - preferably one who does the DS or SIPS or whatever it is, because DS surgeons have to have substantial training and are thus highly skilled due to the nature of the surgery. That is, they will be able to provide input regarding many procedures aside from the ones they do.
I follow a ketogenic diet post-op. I also have a diagnosis of binge eating disorder. Feel free to ask me about either!
It is not that we have so little time but that we lose so much...the life we receive is not short but we make it so; we are not ill provided but use what we have wastefully. -- Seneca, On the Shortness of Life
Make sure to get your protein in at night...you will need it to heal from surgery too, as it takes months to heal fully. Keep drinking :)
I follow a ketogenic diet post-op. I also have a diagnosis of binge eating disorder. Feel free to ask me about either!
It is not that we have so little time but that we lose so much...the life we receive is not short but we make it so; we are not ill provided but use what we have wastefully. -- Seneca, On the Shortness of Life
Definitely post on the sleeve forum, too.
Weight loss gets slower the further under 300 you go. There are also stalls. Right now, make sure to drink 64 oz minimum a day, as that is one way we excrete byproducts of fat burning. Eating healthy can mean a lot of things... make sure you are protein forward. Don't bother with slider foods that are carb heavy at this point. We tend to lose faster by not eating high carb diets.
Also, hang in there
I follow a ketogenic diet post-op. I also have a diagnosis of binge eating disorder. Feel free to ask me about either!
It is not that we have so little time but that we lose so much...the life we receive is not short but we make it so; we are not ill provided but use what we have wastefully. -- Seneca, On the Shortness of Life
