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Ok ladies...time for the vent about the creature on this earth that I love more than anything but he drives me crazy some of the time... I just got back in from a few days in Pigeon Forge with my mom and sister. We spent a ton of time shopping and I bought my husband somethings. He liked everything I bought for him except for some slip on shoes (to wear around the house) at the big dog store. They were on clearance from $25 to $5. I thought we could both have a pair to wear to the mailbox or out to feed the dog. Well when I showed them to him he said..."well, that was a waste of our money! I don't like those kind. You know that." Well, I didn't know this and to make matters worst my mom and sister were sitting in our den listening to it all. Mom was so upset that he was so ungrateful and call me later to ask me if "he is always that ungrateful to me???" I started to think about that and he does take me for granted ALOT! I really expected a different reaction...but....that was what I got. We had a major argument after she left. He never admitted he was wrong...I should have KNOWN he didn't like those or I should have called him to find out!!!! (so he says) DANG if you do and DANG if you don't !!!!! We accomplished nothing with the argument. Finally we apologized (I did first and then had to drag it out of him). I hate to argue and I usually apologize first to end it...I know, I know, I need to grow a "set." One of the days I'll stick to my guns. Thanks for listening. I guess he really isn't glad that I am back.... Rachel

Tell him: "That's OK, maybe my next husband will like them..." Ah men, can't live with them, can't shoot 'em. Kathy

LOL Thanks for making me smile!! I might could learn something from you. RACHEL

Now Rachel you know that men are from a whole 'nother galaxy (forget planet) Mmmm, now I'm no shrink , but I think maybe he was jealous of the time you spent with your mom and sister and not him...that might be his way of letting you know I know, I know, why not just say "Baby I missed you"? That's what we would have done right?! But remember he's from the same galaxy as the rest of DHs'... it's called "The what about Meeeeeeeee Galaxy"!!! So Sweetie don't be sad...in his own alien way he DID MISS YOU!!! And yes we always apologize first because we just want to keep the peace, because we're people pleasers. How everyone else feels is more important than our feelings right?!! Well surgery liberates a lot of us to know we have a voice too!! So eventually they have no choice but to join "The what about WE Galaxy"...as forrest Gump would say, "That's all I have to say about that"!! Tonya

Bless your heart!!! Thanks for helping me see where DH was from. I had been wondering for a long time. Boy, God made them all the same!! Thanks...I think you are right about him being jealous. He is moodier than me...LOL!!! Guess he will get payback after surgery and all my stored Estrogen startes releasing!!! Thanks again for sharing. Rachel

theyre so good at knowing the right things to say huh??? then they go to and we are going wanting to hit them up side the head

And then they say we are complicated!!! I think if they just quited acting stupid and stop having "me" as number one...we would all get along perfect!! Rachel

oh rachel. i am sorry. i am admitting something here i should be sooooo ashamed of. and i am really. in my house, it is the reverse. i NEVER apologize first even when i am totally at fault. and i am likely to take out any frustration on my husband. (to a point, i mean he does a have a set you know) he is such a great guy. he learned a LONG time ago not to even try to buy me anything. i don't know why i do that either. maybe your hubby suffers from my disorder. oh lord, you guys must think i am terrible now. i know i do. but rachel since you are my therapist i have to be honest with you right???

Girl you don't have a disorder and you are NOT terrible. I am sure that you husband is like me and that is why you get along...opposites attract. My husband drives me crazy sometimes but I love him more than anything in the world. I am sure the same is true with your husband. Someone has to be the first to apologize. All I can tell you as your friend and THERAPIST...is let you husband know on a daily basis that you love him and that you appreciate his love for you. That means a lot!!! God bless you!! You are great Sherry...NEVER DOUBT IT!!!! Love ya Girl!! Rachel

now i do let him know i love him and i actually buy him lots of goodies. he is insecure though and that bothers me. for the first time in our 12 years as a couple (11 married as of next sat) he is worried i am going to leave him when i get thin. this is irritating because he is my best friend in the whole world and i love him dearly. i was thin when we met. it ain't like i felt i had to settle. i was dating a rich, very good-looking guy when bobby stole my heart. now, what is up with him???? luv u too!!!