MEN!!!

I deal with a lot of insecurity now. In my opinion, my husband is quite good looking. He works with a lot of women. It has been hard in our marriage when my insecurites and my ability of obess has convinced me that he is cheating on me. I know he isn't cheating on me but I feel so unworthy of his love sometimes. The only reason I feel unworthy is purely because of being overweight and nothing else!!! I don't know how my husband will respond to my weight loss. I was 180lbs when we started dating so I have never been a skinny minny!!! I guess we will have to see! Rachel

oh rachel!!! our relationships are the same but in reverse. bobby feels this way. he doesn't think that i am cheating but he feels very vulnerable. he doesn't get that i love him and him alone. he is such a hottie to me. i still get chills when he walks in the door but he doesn't see that. he thinks once i lose weight i will "find someone better". honey, there is no better!! my hubby is the light of my life and the "chill in my air". i love him unconditionally. i'll tell you something else. he has gained weight since we got together. around 50lbs. actually. you know what??? he looks better to me now than when we started dating. i honestly (and i mean honestly) can't tell the difference in him now and when we met, except to me he looks better. i wouldn't know he had gained except he tells me constantly. be careful sweetie. it can be so hard on the spouse who is secure in the relationship. sometimes i get so mad at bobby because i get tired of trying to convince him how much i love him. he is my light, my hero, my everything. but he doesn't see that. tell your honey you love him and love yourself too. you are worth everything he has to give. AND you are beautiful. i mean really pretty so stop putting yourself down.

I am right there with you girl. Like we have to be gypsy crystal ball readers, or whatever. Geez, you know, I'm sorry but I'm not perfect and I might not pick out the exact perfect right thing but the thought and effort is there!!! Guess my crystal balls is broke.