question about before surgery jitters ???

I am scheduled for the gastric bypass in about 17 days. I know that it is very much what I want & know the Lord is with me . But I know that my husband is very concerned. Which I can understand. But seems lately my head has been swimming with thoughts of guilt that should something happen how bad it would be for him..Did anyone else feel this way? Am I just being crazy making myself crazy? Any thoughts on what I can do to stop this feeling?

i TOTALLY can relate.. only difference was im a mom with a 3 yr old and 1 yr old.. so i had the pressure of that too.. but i put my trust in the Lord that he would lead me in the right direction and he did.. my husband was concerned, but never once did he tell me i shouldnt do it, he said it was my choice and he would back it.. After all the meetings and pre-requirements up to surgery i felt "ready" for it.. where as 4 weeks prior, i was a terrified wreck!!! so.. just do lots of praying, and dont look at that memorial page.. i still dont look at it since my dad is having his surgery coming up.. It just puts too many bad thoughts in our heads!!! Good luck and ill say a prayer for you! Jen

Been there, done that! I was thinking of cancelling, and then I was watching Joel Osteen, and he was talking about fear, and said "you can stay where you are and feed your fear, or you can realize that God is with you, and feed your faith. If you have fear, there is no place for faith, and then you are not letting God be God". WOW, that spoke words to me, and just know that God did not bring you this far, to drop you and let you go. He wants you to rely on Him, and feed your faith!! Just have faith, and kick that fear devil out of your mind, and just know how healthy you will be when its all said and done! You go girl, and just keep the faith!! Deb

I was in the same situation! My parents were also a major concern -- they were really frightened, and I was honestly afraid my Dad would have another heart attack. Now, of course, my husband and parents are delighted with the results -- especially with how much healthier I am. Know that you are doing the best thing for your health, and that the odds of something horrible happening during surgery are really low, and that by far the best years of your life are coming! Lisa

THANK YOU ALL for the great message you sent...Feel more at ease. And I know that all things ARE possible through THE LORD...amen!!

I believe you have valid emotions. It is natural for all of us to worry. You may need to consider, are you having this surgery to improve your health and extend your life, then compare what the future holds for you and your husband if you don't do something to help yourself. My surgery was 5 weeks ago, but I had planned to have it done last fall. I did not get as far as a having a date but, I did attend the all day sessions and decided I was not ready. After several months . . . researching the net and talking with those that have had the WLS and much prayer, I decided I was ready. You may need to discuss this with a member of the MUSC staff Everyone there is supportive. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!