Ladies, I could use some advice...

Rachael, thank you for the comments. Lisa is not the queen of change, she has held on to her hair style longer than she has known me, so when she started talking about a change, I took it as a very loud signal. But your right, changing a hairstyle can be based on many things. By the way, there are not many Man Manuals out in the general population, and those that do have copies never fully read them either. I tend to just color in the pictures as best I can, and snicker at the dirty words in the "How to do it" chapter. Herb

LOL!!! You are great Herb. It is such a honor to know someone like you. Rachel

I'm not trying to offend ANYONE with my comments... I'm just a straight forward... say whatcha think..... kinda girl.. so here goes... MAYBE SHE JUST WANTS TO GET HER HAIR CUT!!!...and you are reading way to much into it.. Are you sure it's not YOU who is scared of change ? I mean... I you for your thinking.. most men wouldn't take to time to analyze a hair cut.. let alone what someone is feeling when they make that decision. It's hair.. it's grows back.. why does there have to be a meaning behind this ? Stealing a quote for a favorite movie of mine : " Just cause I dance around my bedroom in my underwear.. doesn't mean I wanna be Madonna"

Stephanie, You may have a point, maybe she just want to cut her hair. I am fine with how ever she want to wear her hair. I like most men are not masters of the obvious so a large change like this had me wondering what else could be going on. But as many have pointed out, nothing like a little conversation helps when I have questions. Herb

I have to agree with most of the comments made by everyone else. It could be a number of things, ranging from the fact you have done something to improve your looks and the change in your personality might be making her a little insecure that she feels that maybe she needs a change too. She might have the fear that your attracting glances from the opposite sex and she thinks that changing her hair style might keep your eyes on her, lol. And then again, women like to make changes in their appearance, and if she has had the same hairsyle for a while, she might just be ready for a change. Best thing to do is sit and talk about her feelings right now, make sure she knows you love her and your WLS is not going to change the way you feel toward her. Hey, your a good looking man, I could see why she might be just a little jealous, lol. Hope you figure it out and if you don't just chalk it up to her needing a change in her appearance. Take Care! Mary

I agree with the other comments too. My hair was long before surgery and then I cut it short (as you can see in my pictures). Changes in your apperance dosent mean you are unhappy (my opinion). But sometimes changing something about you makes you feel more attractive. The older we get, changes in style, seeing you get compliments, etc. Could have an effect on her decision or it might not. I know in the work place, out and about, I get alot of compliments. (but not at home) my family never says (you look good) you've lost alot of weight, or anything. So for me it is hard to say what I really look like (whether I look good or bad). I never know when it comes to the ones it matters the most (of how I look). Since you've lost weight do you compliment her? Even though in my situation I'm the one that has lost the weight I still don't get the compliment.

Crystal, Thank you for the comments, your short hair looks really nice. I hope Lisa's hair looks just as cute. And since you mentioned it, I not I have not been complimenting her enough since I started losing weight so that is a very good point. Herb

Mary, I have notice how she is not really interested in hearing any details of how you ladies are getting slimmer and livelier each week. I tend to skip over any observational comments about your successes each week when we talk about the Monday group meeting sessions. But I could be bringing out other issue in other ways. I'll tune in my listening skills for any of those clues when we have the hair discussion. Herb

Herb, I just cut my hair which was 6-7 inches past my shoulders to a bob just past my chin. I did it because I fancied a change and this style is pretty popular at the moment. I wasn't in anyway unhappy , but sometimes we need to shake things up a little I don't think this is related to you...my suggestion is just be supportive, who knows she might change her mind, or it might be really stunning...change can be good. Lesley

Lesley, your right changes can be good and being supportive never hurts. Herb