Ladies, I could use some advice...

My heart goes out to you for caring. Thank you from all of us women for caring enough to even ask if there could be a problem. We women are simple yet complicated creatures. We are used to being the peace keepers, the wives, mothers, the nose wipers of all ages at work and at home. We want a break from all of the rat race, yet don't quite know what to do when we get it. We want to be loved. That is our ultiment goal. To love and be loved. I know she is happy and proud of you for the changes you have made in your life. And from how you sound, your self esteem and self confidance has improved. That is wonderful. Please go out of your way to show her where she still fits in your plan for your life. Thank God, you are changing, but it might be kinda different to her. You are getting all kinds of attention, and she is "just your wife". Let her know how thankful you are for all of the support she has given you. Let her know that she is still the light of your life. Us women like to be shown more than told. Her cutting her hair might be nothing more than she just wants to change something about herself. We are rarely happy about all of our body anyhow. Cutiing her hair feels good to get pampered over, then noticed about how good it looks. It is the fastest way we can change something about ourselves. We can't walk into a salon and change our boobs, butt or belly for $20. Just support her in what ever her choice may be. Even if she cuts it and then gets upset because she doesn't like it. Be there to tell her how beautiful she is, hold her and then accept you may never ever be able to fully understand women. Again, thank you enough for caring. You set the bar high for other men!!!!!! Deb

Deborah, Congratulations on your recent WLS, I hope your feeling well. I agree with the perspective of being complicated creatures, but your so loving and nurturing in return. I agree she does need some attention after listening to everyone's comments and I will be direct and ask about her motivations for cutting her hair. I try to be supportive of her decision about her clothes, hair, and the household regardless of how I personally feel, it just not worth fighting over conflicting tastes colors or styles in the long run. Herb