HELP!!!!!!

You guys on here are great. I had my surgery the same day as Deborah Grooms and she sounds like the happiest person in the world. I have lost 40 lbs and feel like crap. I take my meds, vitamins etc. But I feel kinda lost and lonely. What is the secret to all this happiness everyone seems to have. All I want to do is lay in bed and cover my head. Whats wrong with me? Help

find a great support group it helps so much ppl that knows what you are feeling & going thu

Hi Jen, honey you are absolutely normal to feel the way you do. Not everyone has the immediate happiness, sometimes it takes time, therapy, or even medication to achieve the happiness that comes with the surgery. I've been where you are, I'm 2 months out and have had nothing but complications since day one. Please find a support group or even call the drs office and tell them how you are feeling. They have therapist who work specifically with WLS patients and their concerns. I found happiness by being encouraged by all my friends here and just being able to vent my frustrations, questions, or concerns and not feel like I'm being judged. We are all here for you if you want to just scream or call one of us up and just listen to each other breathe. Stay strong hun, this wont last always. Robin

Hey Jen, We all need pills sometimes.... I used to be against them because of the stereotypes that are out there, but Lexapro became my friend a few times. And you should feel good about losing 40 lbs...I've only lost 54 total in 3 months...13 each in the last two months....that right there is sort of a downer but I also think about it as I am not losing extremely fast leaving tons of saggy skin. That is what helps me from feeling down. Please come to our Meeting tomorrow....take a drive and get out of the house....that could be most of your problem...not getting out of the house....I know that bugs me when I sit home with nothing to do. Jennifer

Oh sweetie, I've have been queen of the pity party this week. I should be thrilled, I've lost lots of weight and had a boob job. but I've been sort of miserable (lots of it was I've been off my antidepressant due to surgery, got back on today). My friend Kelly O had a really hard time after her surgery. We had surgery on the same day and work together. Read her profile and email her if you have questions. I know that she'd love to help. She's a newlywed so not always on the board on the weekends. I'll make her check her messages and stuff though if I talk to her. Good Luck, please let me know if I can help Mary

Sweetie, I'm sorry that things aren't going great for you. I wish there was something I could do. Trust me, things aren't always perfect. There are days that I do not want to eat. I am just now starting to stray out of the box, from won ton soup. I'll try to give you a peak in on me... 1.) I try to stay positive. We are only going to be in this position for a little while. We will be able to eat a little more soon. 2.) I try to Be thankful. I was given a wonderful opportunity to be able to have this surgery. For once in my life, I don't want to let myself or the ones that love me, down. 3.) There are people that think I will fail, in fact, I think they are betting I will fail...I will not let them have their way! 4.) I have a great support group. Everything I know, I have learned from them. I could not have done this without them. 5.) Surround yourself with positive people. 6.) Pray. I have two teenage boys, one that test every nerve in my body. He would drive me nuts if I let him. He puts so much tension in our home. He wants all the attention on him at all times, good or bad, its still attention. But finally, I have learned to put myself first. I still take good care of my family, and as much as it drives me crazy to see the dust and hair from my Huskey, and all of the housework that gets skipped, I am learning that it will always be there. I won't be, so I want to enjoy life now. I cook alot in my crock pot, and that makes cooking easy and quick. I have lost 35-40 pounds also. I almost can't believe it, but it thrills me. I have my 1st appointment on Monday the 12th at 11am. I hope you will be there. Girl, I think I was born with a grin on my face. When I was younger, life at home was bad, but everytime I was out of the house, I was grinning. My boys bio-dad was an evil man, but everytime I was away from him, I was grinning. This grin is on my face most days, but that doesn't always mean life is rosie. Pull your happiness from within. And if all else fails, please go see a Doctor. Meds are good. I am here, if I can in anyway help, please let me know. We are all in this together. I hope you can go to Myrtle Beach with us. Deb

Deb...very good girl...and I think we all mistake happiness for joy. Happiness is dependent upon our cir****tances which like the tide, ebbs and flows and change just as quickly. But joy comes from within. I know personally, my joy comes from the Lord. I have a had a very hard life. Oldest of 9 kids, Father dies when I was almost 13, very poor, never knew where next meal would come from, BUT...there is a God and He is real and wants to comfort those He loves. Anesthesia will cause those down feelings too and it takes a long....time to leave our systems. Reach out and talk to others who understand our situation. This is life changing surgery but it can be managed. Through information and support. Love in Him, Joan M

Thank you to all. Everyone responded so well. And everyone was so nice. I will break through this cloud. I went yesterday and bought me some walking shoes. Somebody give me all the details on this Myrtle Beach vacation. My email is [email protected] to all....and to you to Deborah....You are are all a blessing. I have a hole that food once filled and I need something to fill it. I am going to fill it with the Lord and all his glory. Love to all ..Jen