HELP I have teenagers!!!

So help me... I love my girls to death but .... I really think I need something stronger than Lexapro... is there anything out there that I can throw in the  Dr.'s ear for him to try on me? My 15 just got her permit... not too bad. But my 13 year old girl is driving me bannanas!!!   I hate to go shopping with her... she drives me batty. I would love to go and enjoy a shopping trip with my girl but I come back so tense and  aggrivated that I threaten never to go back with her. My problem is... is it me needing to change my meds. Is she just being a normal 13 year old?  I hate to be Cruela (sp) but sometimes she just really pushes my buttons!!!!  Now I know why insects eat their young!!!  Thanks for letting me vent... I just feel like it is all me and want to me a better Mom.  Love you all, Pam 

hm I  would help but see I have a 15 year old also I am in the same boat lol ,good luck

Xanax--is the best word to say, LOL.  J/K--I do need my xanax though, I have 2-18 year olds, a 10 yr old and 6 yr old.  I do have to take it when I know that we are going out or shopping.  They moved me up from Lexapro to Zoloft and that seems to help.  I hope this helps and good luck,  P.S. And God Bless

Hi Pam, I don't have a teen but I have the terrible 3 year old I am so dreading the teen years. I recently had to switch from Lexipro back to Zoloft because Lexipro just was not getting it done it would tapper off and by around 3 in the afternoon I was back to being tense and getting ill with Willow. The Zoloft is doing much better. The funny thing about this is I can't even picture you getting aggravated at all, your so layed back with us. Well hope you can get it figured out. Love you bunches Marcey

Pam, just think, you only have about 50 more years of this, lol. Just as you think your finished with the teenage years, along come GRANDKIDS! Believe me, it's never ending. But two good things about it.......... you can send them home to mom and dad and the best part for me is watching my kids get back everything they dished out......... smart mouths, not cleaning up their messes, wanting everything under the sun that they see, and the list goes on for longer than I have to sit here and type, lol. So.... just when you feel as though your Lexapro isn't working, think about payback, it makes it all worth it! Love Ya! Granny Mary

Hey Pam!  I don't know if it is all you.  I don't have any children and the more I think about it the more convinced that I don't want any.  Me and DH have enough "issues"to deal with right now, children would be too much. I remember my teenage years and that would be the one of the worst times I had growing up.  Hormones are wild, parents are unfair, and everyone hated me!      But, I'm thinking you are having some of these feelings because of the weight loss and our wacked out hormones that come with that!!!  My husband says that I have been indecisive emotional, depressed, and just "not me" since surgery.  However, more things have happened since surgery so that can't be completely blamed on the surgery.  I hear that we are losing estrogen in our fat cells so think about that fact that we are have estrogen overloads! Ask the doctor about something else.  I'm on Luvox (was on before surgery for OCD), Wellbutrin XL, and ativan (as needed....um daily).  I'm going to the doctor tomorrow afternoon to talk to him about how things are going.  I have actually had a major step back in controlling my moods in the last 2 or 3 weeks.  I have been a "BEEP." Talk to your doctor.  If he won't give you anything I'll give you the name of mine....if it's legal he will give it to you.  LOL I hope to get back to support group tomorrow night.  I need it.  I haven't lost a dang thing in a month!!  It sucks!! Rachel

Thank you everyone for your support and encouragement... I know this time shall pass and I will probably wish for more times.  I will be asking my Dr about some stronger meds... I know my husband would agree to that one.  I hope to see everyone tomorrow night at meeting... love you all!!! 

I have a 14 year old daughter. She is a pain on the hiney. I don't know what is wrong with her either. I cannot spend good time with her because she is so hard to get along with. I have already been through her 13th year plus 4 other 13 year olds. Remember I have 2 grown kids plus 1 17 year old who thinks she is 30. And a step son who is 16. And I still have Gabriel but we have some years before he is 13. So I pray for you. Thats all that will help. They need to sell teenage pills. LOL..Well I have a family situation here. Teenagers!!! Love to you all....I am going to miss you Becky...Sorry I couldn't come to your party. Gabriel hs bible school and we are still working on this pool. But I do love you and will miss you. I assume you will still be online....Love you jen

Hey Pam!

Sorry to hear about the "girls'.  I don't have much advice as I haven't reached that stage yet with mine.  I just hope it passes quickly for you.  You are an awesome mom and don't forget that!!!   I hope that I see you tomorrow night.  I hope to make the meeting.  I'm just not quite sure yet!!! Love ya! Melissa

Hi Pam I got 2 girls, 7 and 10. And this might be different because they are younger or I'm the Dad and not Mom, but what I know is this. You're going to love your kids all the time-just not like them all the time. Its perfectly normal. When I was at ends with my then 8 yr old-due to her growing up and me not being able to handle her growing up...I finally sat down with her-no distraction-and told her exactly what I was feeling, which was frustration. Frustration at being mad at her alot, at her being mad at me alot, and that I really wanted something better for the both of us. She agreed. I asked her what she needed from me--and I could do about 95% of it (I was not going to allow her as much dessert as she wanted), and then I told her what I needed from her.  Now-once a onth just her and I go out for a "date" daddy-daughter and we talk, just talk. She gets to pick the restaurant, and she gets whatever dessert she wants, but we renew our committment to each other on being respectful of each other needs. She talks about what is going on with her and how I can help...and its just nice. The aggravation and yelling has almost all but stopped.  I think sometimes it just takes a timeout or a push of the reset button or getting away...BREAK the pattern that you hate and try a new one Sorry if this comes off as lecturing, I don't mean to-but this is what worked for me Good luck and hang in there!! Chris