Update

Hello, just a little update on my dad. He did have a major stroke and it was not the type that bleeds. That was good to know. He is starting to get better he can now muve the right side some and is going to be going to rehab the first part of next week. Today they moved him down to 2 South which is the heart parvion and now is not listed as critical so that means he has come a long way with a long ways to go. Got to go Christmas shopping today and that felt pretty good even if some got mad about it. It is only one time a year. Right now I need this so that I can get my mind on other things besides my dad. Hope everybody has a nice weekend.

BIG HUGS    Keep praying and keep your spirits up... I had a friend who was 30 and had a stroke, so I know the feelings all to well.... I'll keep you and him in my thoughts and prayers and glad to see he's on the mending side of things...

Thank you and yes I am glad that he is improving a little each day. the one thing I know is when I need support I know that I can come here to get it.

Pat glad to here things are going better for your dad. And hey  a little Christmas shopping never hurt anyone no tsure who got mad at ya but if its like here I get busted every year but I dont give a damn. Im so through w/ the control s---. So enjoy it all you can Hugs going to you. And prayers going out for you and dad. 

Thank you and I intend to do what I can for everyone and if he does not like it he can kiss it. I am the only one that every shops for Christmas and it would be nice to have some help in doing it. You know I know that I am not working but I am trying and I have enough to do.Maybe next year I will say alright you do the shopping and see if you can do any better. Kat and I had fun shopping that is the first time in a while where it was just her and me without the kids. Thank you for the hugs and prayers they are very much appreciated. Hope your weekend is going good. It felt good to just rest for a while.

Glad to hear that your dad is doing better. You have done a lot of running around recently so you are entitled to take time for yourself and get your shopping done! Relax and do not let other people get to you! It would not do your dad any good if you got too worn out running back and forward to the hospital without any breaks Jackie

Thank you Jackie I am too. Well I wish his wife would understand that. I am so tired of being called and asked when am I going up and futher more if she wants to go up there call a cab, if only I could just say that to her without hurting her feelings and my dads too. They both think that I should prvide transportation for them well that is not always possible. I need to learn how to just say no and let it go. But that is not how I was brought up. I let everyone run over me.Out of all the time dad has been in the hospital I have missed 1 day and that was yesterday to go shopping.Well enough about me. Habe you gotten most of your shopping done. Hope you have a nice weekend.

Families have high expectations of each other! When Bill's mom wAs in hospital 5 years ago we lived 50 miles away but the expectation was that we would be there every evening to see her. By the time Bill and I got home from work it was alReady after 6 then we had to battle through traffic and get to the hosptal after 7.30pm, stay until 9pm and then travel over an hour home. After 3 weeks we were exhausted and said one of us had to work late to get a night where we could just rest - and got criticised by a family member who had only been to see her twice - and who lived 2 miles from the hospital!!  So you can't win!!!  - you could just say work commitments prevent you being able to pick your dad's wife up but you could give her a cab number if she should need one... I am almost ready for the holidays - I need to have everything completed by next Sunday as i don't know how I am going to be after surgery next week... Good luck and try not to let anyone get you down - you needs some time for yourself..... Jackie

Thank you sweetie and good luck on your surgery please post or get someone to post how you are doing and I will keep you in my prayers and throughts. I know that it is rough and I am going to start taking some time for me. My husband and I went up today and I am seeing him going backwards and that concerns me a little. I guess it is to be expected. I know what you mean I think I am going to have to stop anwsering my phone she is calling every day wanting to know when I am going up and I told her I am not going back today and we would see about tomorrow.

I should be home the same day so I will probably be ok to write in a message the next day........ thank you for your concerns... and it isn't until the 10th so I have 8 days to go.... Try to make sure you get some rest  - and maybe not answering her calls will give you some breathing space for a few hours..... I am sorry your dad looks like he is going backwards - that is always worrying - I am hoping he will rally round again.... Jackie