I Need Suggestions on How To Handle Something

I have been struggling on how to handle all the new attention from males.  When I was MO it was easier to hide behind the weight and therefore hide from the attention.  Now it is a completely different story and I am getting confused.  Don't get me wrong, I love the attention but it is very new to me and I feel like a child in a candy store asking "Which one do I want?"  I have been asked out for this weekend by two different guys and like something different about both of them.  HELP!?  How do you all handle it?

You are not married Nancy so why not go out with one of them Friday night and the other one Saturday night? You will never know which one you truly have more in common with if you don't talk to them both. I hope you have a nice time on your dates. Crystal

It is pretty odd really. Now I am lucky since I am married so all the attention I am getting now I know is not going anywhere. I have seen women at work who rarely spoke to me before who now find reasons to chat me up. And waitresses...geez....I was almost invisible before. Now I am getting the full out flirt (which helps at tip time). LOL My advice at this point....go out with both of them. See what you like. It's not like you're making a huge commitment yet. A date is a great job interview. You may not like them after; you may. Having to choose is not the worst problem in the world. :)

Your suggestions are great ones and I totally love getting a male's point of view.  Thank you.  This journey is really trying to figure out who we are as a "new person".

Man it really is. It is always great to know that I am not the only one trying to figure out who the heck I am...

Hey Nancy!  Boy do I remember that stage (& still struggle with it).  I was single & getting the attention & not sure what to do.  I had been burned in my past and kept coming up with negatives about why not accept the dates I was being offered.  Finally my mom pretty much told me, go ahead and go out with them, you aren't getting married on the first date, go out, get some date experience and you never know what you might find. So I agree with the others, go ahead and make the dates and get to know the gentleman (be honest about casually dating & seeing other people) and see if one tickles your fancy more than the other.  Have a great time & we want details.

I think you should enjiy every second of the attention - you have worked for it and should enjoy it lol!! I say go out with both - don't tell the other that you are going out with anyone else- let them fight for you! And after all - as Courtney said - it is not like you are going to marry any of them on the first date - and if you decide you gon't like them just remember there are plenty more where they came from  (sorry guys but that is true lol) Enjoy your new found freedom! Jackie

What a great problem to have!     There's no harm in dating...what a great way to meet and get to know the guys.  There's nothing saying you have to even have a second date, right? Like everyone else, I have noticed such a difference in how people treat me...where I was invisible before (always seemed strange since I was so large!), people now treat me nicely....it is refreshing and a little disconcerting at the same time. Enjoy the attention, and the fact that your journey has lead you to this point!  Take care, Cindy

Nancy, I agree with the others.  You will never know unless you date both and you will find out more when you go out on that date.  Sit back relax and enjoy all that attention.  I am an old married woman but I enjoy the attention from everyone really.  People do treat me differently but I decided to just enjoy it. Good luck and have fun!!! Anna

Live it up! Dont settle for less! Your single...enjoy yourself! As long as you are upfront about wanting to play the field a lil...what's the harm in dating more than one...? Have a great time! Brandi~