Need your HELP!

Hi everyone-

I don't post on this board usually, but I read occasionally. I'm stopping by today to ask for some help for a friend of mine.

Jaime (jaimepooh) was supposed to have surgery on this coming Tuesday and just found out that due to her psych consult, they want to postpone her surgery. She is devistated. She's trying to get things resolved this weekend and see if they can still get things done this week, but she's very upset about all this.

I was hoping some of the good VA people could reach out to her with a little support. I really think she could use it right now!!

Thanks!

Kathy (former VA lurker)

Hi Kathy what is the reason behind the postponement if you dont mind me asking? And where is her surgery to take place? Can you give us more information about your friend so we know what all is going on with her and her heath? Thanks for posting and Im sure there is plenty here to help her get through this diffacult time, Sending hugs from one Virginian to another.

Hi!

She's having surgery with Dr. Moazzez at Inova Fair Oaks. You can read about it on her blog- she did write about it. I'm going to encourage her to reach out to you guys also.

Thanks!!
Kathy

Im sure she is quite bummed about all this but they didnt cancel her surgery all together..right? It sucks bad when thing's get postponed but if it was due to her psych appointment it may have something to do with her having issues that will cause her to sabbatoge her weight loss. I know that's common and I know that it is important to get that taken care of before hand because it was be even more devestating to her to have the sugery and regain her weight later. I certainly wish her the best of the best and a speedy surgery  and recovery. Brandi~

Kathy,  What ever the reason for her postponement , I am sure she is devistated . I had posted to her surgery page just the other day . I feel so bad for her .  I am sure she is upset . Please let her know that while this is a set back , her doctors really do know what they are doing . You said it was due to psych issues . Trust me , if there is something they picked up on , or things going on in her life that may cause issues later .  This is for the best . She can always get help or get things resolved . There is always answers to problems .  She does have a great support team here . So many of us have had disapointments . Please ask her to reach out to us .. if she wants . If not , just let her know that all of us here are praying for her and sending out postiive energies .  Tell her that she must believe in herself .. and to be strong . Her surgery will come .  If she needs to talk . please have her Pm me here .  Give her a big hug for me .  Tink

Thanks Tink

I posted to her blog and have encouraged her to come here and post so I'm hoping that she will!

Either way- I think it would nice for her to get any kind of encouragement (blog comments, PM's...) at this point.

THANKS!
Kathy

Kathy- Welcome out of lurkdom....... I cannot imagine how devestating I would be to be prepared for the surgery and then be told that it had to be postponed due to the psyc eval. Often times many people do not need the psyc eval (so they don;t get it), and struggle after the surgery because they have an addictive behavior that causes them to transfer their addiction to someplace else, develop eating disorders (don't want to eat for fear of gaining weight), or never address the issues that caused them to over eat.  Additionally, they have no clue about this surgery because they did not research it - they just looked at it as a way to lose weight. Unfortunately, though, many doctor's and insurance companies require that eval in order to perform the surgery.  The purpose if to find out if their are unresolved issues, to make sure that the patient understands what they are getting into, and to make sure that there are no underlying eating disorders.  So, their postponement is an indication that there is something that needs to be looked at for either her safety or even possibility her insurance. Please tell your friend that she will be in my thoughts today and I will be crossing my fingers (and toes) that this gets resolved quickly so she can move forward.

Kathy, I was going to post on Jaime's profile, but I am unable to locate jaimepooh. Perhaps her account is private? JoeBear

I found her under jamiepooh.  (different spelling)

Thank you.