Letting Go......
Ok...my husband will tell you that I am a "dweller". That in order to come to terms with something (or someone) I dwell on the situation until I can accept that it has happened or that person is just a sad, pathetic, nasty person and nothing I do will ever change them.
In some form or another, we are all "dwellers" We hold on to the fact that we were fat in high school, that we were the black sheep of the family, or just did not fit in at some point of our lives.
But...it is this dwelling that keeps us from achieving our goals, because we will never feel worthy enough to be the success that we want to be. I can tell you that I still fight that, even today.
But, in order to be successful, we must let go of the identity we have created for ourselves and move on. Looking deep within yourself may be what you need, and some may require therapy to get there.
It is important to recognize that that person from the past no longer exists and then a new one can emerge.
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I too am a dweller. One of my least favorite characteristics is that I have a terrific memory for the bad things in life, and a poor memory of the good. I tend not to be able to let go of all the sad stories. It's annoying and I am trying to be a more positive person by focusing on the good in other people and myself instead of always dwelling on what once was. It's horrible to be one of those people who can beat a dead horse silly... sigh...
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Oh Jill you hit the nail on the head here. I too can be a dweller, a worrier and sit and think things through over and and over until Im nuts. But the past year I have tried to let it go and move forward and not dwell so much on things or people that wernt important or that were negative. So this was a good post. Thanks you always come up with some good stuff. 
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well I am not much of a dweller and I have the capacity to look past some of the things that have been done to me by telling myself that they are not worth my time............ it does not mean I forgive just I don't dwell on it....and I do have a long memory - I can just wait my time ....... I think dwelling only makes you miserabe - so it is better to get even lololol!
Jackie
Good am Jill,
As I mentioned to you I really like this post. I was a BIG dweller in the past but I realized and learned that it only holds me back from accomplishing great things. Its hard to accept that some folks just won't change and we cannot do a thing about it. But, we CAN change us. I still fight it at times but I've got to remember that I've got more to accomplish and dwelling will leave me not reaching those goals. A new woman HAS emerged and I'm her and she's me.
Thanks so much!
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