OT: would you date a man who's 40 lbs overweight?
Let me add to this:
We have a few things going on as women who've been fat for a while. We may think if someone is nice to us, we owe them or something. So we might date guys we don't really feel strongly about because of that. And on the other hand, we crave the validation of dating a guy who everyone thinks is a catch, so we might not want to date fat guys because we want to show we're capable of landing a cute skinny one. So those are two things to watch out for when dating.
We have a few things going on as women who've been fat for a while. We may think if someone is nice to us, we owe them or something. So we might date guys we don't really feel strongly about because of that. And on the other hand, we crave the validation of dating a guy who everyone thinks is a catch, so we might not want to date fat guys because we want to show we're capable of landing a cute skinny one. So those are two things to watch out for when dating.
I'm 5' 8.5"
Lalizarde - That is some very good insight to this topic! You hit it right on. I'm def going to watch out for those things.
I also feel that with the big weightloss comes a big boost of self confidence, and sometimes it can get to our head! I suggest she try not to criticize the person so much. She was once in that position. I'm not saying she has to be with the guy cause she feels sorry for him, but dont judge him on his stomach belly. Try to look past that and see if the guy actually has something more to offer to her life. If she still doesn't find him attractive for his other attributes...than HE'S JUST NOT THE ONE.
I also feel that with the big weightloss comes a big boost of self confidence, and sometimes it can get to our head! I suggest she try not to criticize the person so much. She was once in that position. I'm not saying she has to be with the guy cause she feels sorry for him, but dont judge him on his stomach belly. Try to look past that and see if the guy actually has something more to offer to her life. If she still doesn't find him attractive for his other attributes...than HE'S JUST NOT THE ONE.
(LOST 50 LBS w/ Realize Band prior to Gastric Sleeve)
Aww, thanks!
I think because of intimacy issues I have relating to the weight (and to having been a nerdy kid) it will take me a while dating someone to make sure they are the right one because of those reasons. I tend to try to force it - make more out of it than there is - it scares them away, and if I really listen to my gut, I didn't even like them that much to begin with.
I think because of intimacy issues I have relating to the weight (and to having been a nerdy kid) it will take me a while dating someone to make sure they are the right one because of those reasons. I tend to try to force it - make more out of it than there is - it scares them away, and if I really listen to my gut, I didn't even like them that much to begin with.
I'm 5' 8.5"
You rock girl...you just spoke it all in truth and glory!
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I SO thought that was him and was REALLY wondering what would happen if he saw your post with his half naked picture displayed. LMAO 
I'd date someone who was 40 lbs overweight. It's not good for them, but it's not to the point where their life is ruined by the amount of extra weight they're carrying around.
My husband is actually about 40 lbs over weight...but I think he's kind of cute that way (yes, I know I shouldn't say that...but I love him so much!).
Good luck, either way!
~Katherine
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