OT: would you date a man who's 40 lbs overweight?

NO.

Ok here is a guys point of view. First of all i am not going to judge you and call you shallow or anything like that. Since this is a forum, people tend to get braver and say things that they normally would not say in real life. And we ALL must remember just because someone posts something that we may not agree with doesnt mean that it totally reflects that persons personality. We think we know each other on this board but we really dont. I think if you discuss this with your man he will think that now that you are skinny that you think you are now better than overweight people. Because as a man myself as stubborn as I am that would be my argument, so dont be suprised if he throws that one up in your face. I think if you really loved him the double chin thing or being 40 lbs overweight would not bother you. As a matter of fact, I dont really think thats what has been bothering you about him. Its got to be something other than physical looks because I do not think you are that shallow of a person because I am sure that ALL of us here on this board have all been rejected at one time or another in our life because of our size.

Just to be clear here green super hero,

Was this response for me or the original poster?

Sigh,...Canadians LOl it was to the original poster.

I usually don't repond but had to answer this one.

Please, set this guy free.  This "6 foot tall, handsome, smart, whitty, has a good job, owns home, rv, atv's, kayak, single dad" deserves a lady who will appreciate and love him for his numerous good qualities and who is able to accept his 40 extra pounds.

You can list all his great qualities but can't seem to get past what you see as his major flaw...his weight.  At least you are admitting it so do the right thing...let him go.  He obviously does not rock your boat so you will never be happy with him and will always wonder if you could have done better if you had only waited.  He will sense your attitude of having "settled" and that isn't fair to him.  I suggest you set him free now, before he gets too emotionally involved, so that he can find someone who will make him happy.  That also leaves you free to move along and maybe find your Prince Charming.  I just hope you don't someday regret the "one who got away".

I never let the "package" rule.  I learned many, many years ago that the package can hide an ugly heart.  I'll bet there are women on here who would love to have this guy...maybe you can hook them up!

 Yeah, but I've put up with a lot from a guy with a nice package.

Oh wait, that's not what you meant.

You are still one remarkable woman girl!

 Aww! Thanks, Bethie!

Liz

I just hope he doesn't read this post because if I were him and read this I would not be that happy. I would think if it is such an issue why are you with me. and probaly leave and on the way out say thanks for the pitty sex you have been giving me. Sorry to have grossed you out please lose my number!!!

I agree with everyone else.  If he was the right guy, you wouldn't even have to ask.  Any kind of *turn-off* becomes larger when you're in a committed relationship.