Not Telling People
Those of you that didn't tell, how did you handle it?
I too was very judgmental, but when I look back on my judgments, I think I was more jealous. We know that it's not the easy way out, but others aren't as versed on the procedure as we are, so cut them some slack with their judgments.
This is privacy issue to me and I don't think it's anyone's business how I choose to get rid of excess weight. But most people think their opinion is the only one that counts, so I don't let them in on my personal life.
Don't you think they are judging you for being overweight too? Which judgment can you live with?
Only my immediate family and my boss knew about my surgery. I did not even tell my best friends. After I returned to work, that was after 3rd week after surgery, people notice that I had lost weight so they asked and I told them I had WLS. Everyone was happy for me. Then I called all my friends and told them. I wanted to have a clear mind before going into surgery and did not want to listen to any negative comments. I was determined to have the surgery and nothing was going to change my mind.....It worked out fine.

Hopefully this all liquid diet will work quickly and my surgeon's office will submit the paperwork soon.

At work i had to take a holiday so i told them i had gland issues that demand a small op, which was not a total lie cuz at the end i had a high tsh that was starting to cuz more gaining. This worked fine cuz ur expected to have complications after any op, so the eating disaster seems a natural consequence, and at the same time glands cuz you to gain or lose weight, so if the op fixes ur problem ur expected to lose weight..
Anyway people are always curious about how u lose weight and they start inspecting ur habits, so i totally understand why u want to keep this to the chosen few!
But again answering ur question about being weird, i fixed that with being on "diet", you can take the first week off and not see ppl, then when ur back, ur dieting. eating yoghurt or custard at work makes it easy to feel normal but "dieting"
gluck, and remember its nice to have a secret

Its all up to you on how you want to handle it. I myself was not worried about what people think. I did it for myself not for anyone else. And I would do it again if I had too. Good luck
Before my surgery, I only told people close to me. I knew it would eventually make it around the office. I'm about the 4th person there to have some form of WLS, so by now it's old news in my office. But NONE of my immediate coworkers mentions anything to me about my weight loss! Maybe it's because I didn't directly tell them I had surgery, or maybe it's because I work in healthcare and we're so aware of privacy issues to begin with.
When people outside of my circle of friends and coworkers started noticing, I originally just said I changed my eating patterns and started exersizing. But once I lost a lot of weight in a short time, I thought it's safe to start telling anyone who asked. FOR ME, I didn't want to be Starr Jones - like and lie about it. After all, I was on the other end and always wanted to know how people lost weight. Jealousy? I don't think so, I just wanted to know how they lost it and if it's something I hadn't tried already.
Good luck on your new journey Happy!