What about your friends??

TLC (Girl's R&B Group from the 90s) had a hit entitled, "What about your friends....."

My question is for those who've lost a lot of weight with this surgery....Have your friends, co-workers, etc...changed??  Do you see the green monster a.k.a. Jealousy surfacing now? I'd hope that one's friends would be happy for them, and would be glad that they're much more healthy now and so on; however, we DO NOT live in an Eutopian society, so I know that envy, malice, hatred, etc...are real emotions that REALLY exist. So, has anyone lost friends after having the surgery and losing a lot of weight??

                                   

One friend was extremely negative about my surgery and went around saying I will gain it all back. This served to motivate me more. It's almost been 2 years since my surgery and I have kept all the weight off without any problem.

Three of my friends were inspired by my success and have gone on to have the VSG. One of them was operated on this Monday.

People will have different reactions to the VSG. In the end I did this for myself and have no regrets. Let them think what they will. In the end I'm thin, healthy and loving life.

Good luck,
George

You will get some great info from veterans but for now I will tell you what I have seen. I am 5 weeks out from VSG. I didn't tell anyone about my surgery. My husband on the other hand cannot keep a secret so now a lot of people know. The thing is no one discusses it with me, which is fine. But I find that some people, especially women now avoid me, especially the ones who are still overweight. I have lost 30 pounds, that is amazing for me. Anyway, I have a friend who got to goal in 7 months, over 100 pounds lost. She is in sales and gets the meanest looks, people have changed she says, especially the women. Yes, it seems like jealousy. I hate it. I thought we all stuck together in this, thick or thin. I have been the biggest girl in church for a long time. I am so happy to be losing weight but it looks like things are a changin' for me too.
I wish you the best. But...this IS the best thing for us. I feel like if they act and talk like this once we lose the weight and are healthy they weren't really good friends to begin with. I plan on making some new friends like with the running club once I get to that point or a dance group or something where health is the forefront. We don't need the negativity in our lives, I sure don't. I have had it for some 20 years with being obese and I don't plan on dealing with it anymore.

I am lucky all know I am not ashamed!I hope I can one day inspire someone with my story to change for the better I want the whole world to be sleeved!!!I love life have great friends.everyone takes me to lunch and I hear oh KIm don't waste the money we will  share talking about buffet my whole1/2 cup worth lol.I get the tip {sometimes my luch would have been cheaper lol .Its all good

I was so excited once I decided to do it - I told everybody!!  Once it was approved - again, I told everybody!  I have had NOTHING but support.  I think it's helped me that everyone knows and I'm not keeping it a secret.  We go out to eat with friends alot - I don't know how I would get through a meal without someone asking - is that all your eating! Lol!!  I hope the same goes for you!! Hugs!!!

I haven't lost a single friend over this.  I think I am very fortunate to have a great bunch of girlfriends who support me no matter what.  One of them is thinking of following in my footsteps, another took the time to try to talk me out of it in the beginning, but when I told her I had done my research and was committed to this decision, she got right with it quickly and has had my back ever since. 

Haven't told anyone who isnt one of my closest, dearest and most trusted friends and they are all supportive, happy for me, and thrilled to see my progress.

Friends I haven't told are curious some of them will likely earn the privledge of knowing  my secret over time.

And finally their are some "friends" that just like to talk about EVERYONE and they are currently talking about me from time to time - Did you see her?  I bet she will regain it again!  Bla bla bla....  This is why these folks don't know. 

I chose only to surround myself with support and positivity!!!

I would certainly hope that this would NOT be the case for anyone, but I'm sure it DOES happen!! Like one of the posts above, I'm excited and I don't mind telling people about it! I'm praying to one day be able to give by to the children in my community whose suffering from childhood obesity, so this is a BIG DEAL to me!! So, I'm praying that noone changes after I have this surgery, but if they do.......THEIR LOSS!!! I  was just wondering if someone has experienced this, and if so.....how did he/she handle it!!!

I haven't told many people about it, but the ones that I have told have been 100% supportive. The only person that has shown some slight jealousy is my boss (who is also my friend) and she struggles with her weight too. Most of the time she's supportive, but sometimes little digging comments are made. It's really just a reflection of her own self esteem, so I don't let it get to me.

well In my case I have a lot of people who are hattin on me as an morbidly Obese person. I'm so understanding and humble but they hate me anyhoo. I can't imagine how they will feel once I am at  a healthy weight....  side eyes here I come.
Most importantly more than any other thing I know I deserve this. I am an excellent mom of many sacrafices and the time has come to take better care of myself.