I know I know...it should be a good thing...(OT)

I feel like I am always complaining on here, but I figure that yall are the ones who know and can understand these issues the best.

I have this super cool hair dresser, love her to death...but yesterday I was in there with my Mom and the hairdresser just went on and on about "doesn't she just have a beautiful face...ahhhh she has a nose that people pay for.....a regal face...."

That is soo nice, really it is...but why does it sting? Why can't I just be beautiful or "regal looking" or anything other than the girl with the pretty face.

I know I should take what I can get...I least I do have a pretty face...but still.

 I cannot wait to have the surgery so not only do I feel better about me, but people start to see me as someone other than a fat girl.

Sorry for the rant, I totally realize its stupid, so feel free to ignore.

Ahh I couldn't agree more. I'm the same way. My hairdresser is always like 'you have such beautiful hair, people pay big money for this, and you have it naturally!' or 'such pretty eyes' and stuff.. But it stings sometimes.

I can't wait for surgery either

I understand it is right up there with "you have a great personality" or " you just haven't found the guy"

I hate having to "prove" myself all the time.  It is like the fat subtracts away from us as a person....

I am with you girl!!!!  Hurry up August 2nd my VSG date!!!!

I can totally relate to your frustration! People at work have said things just like that to me -- "Oh you have such a pretty face" and "You have such beautiful hair" -- never just "Oh you are so pretty."  To me, it's like telling someone who struggles with alcohol that they're so nice when they're sober!

I, too, cannot wait to have the surgery so that people will see me as someone other than a fat chick.

So the last time I had my hair trimmed, the stylist said"oh, you poor thing!  You have grey hair"!  For a sec I forgot my "weight issues"!  Surgery date July 27, 2011.  Can't wait!

lol, yes....see?  ;) I have had grey hair for a while...way to welcome in the big 3-0 I will be next month! 

I too have had grey hair for a long LONG time...since I was 16 and now 51.  The Bible tells me that grey hair is a sign of wisdom....must be true, cuz my hubby says I'm the biggest smart ass he knows and he's not talking about my weight or my butt!    Wear it proudly....save the $$ from dye jobs and put them toward plastics like I am!  

Maybe you're personalizing it too much.  I frequently compliment people about a certain feature or clothing item -- like, "I love your hair," but I would feel weird telling someone "You are so beautiful," in a casual setting.

I like it when people compliment me about certain things, but I would feel weird if someone I'm not intimate with was raving about my beauty. 

I work in Scottsdale, which is one of those places known for it's beautiful people, and I work with several women who could literally be super models, and while they do get a lot of attention and compliments, I've never heard anyone stop them in the halls and rave about their beauty.

Maybe you should just take a compliment. 

thats true....

I guess I am a very compliment-y person...I give lots and have no prob telling someone they are beautiful or adorable or whatever. Does that make me weird? lol

I realize people are just jumping on the bandwagon here... but come on. She was specific enough to say why your face is beautiful. Why not just accept the compliment?  I've complimented specific things about people- eyes, bone structure, etc.  So what are you saying, thin people can get complimented for a specific feature but fat people can't?

I get that big women hate the pretty face thing, but it usually isn't as specific as you hairdresser.