I know I know...it should be a good thing...(OT)

you're right, and I did take it as a compliment. I guess I am just whining, because I cannot wait to the day that someone (other than my daddy) tells me I am beautiful lol!! 

OK. I understand. I couldn't wait either for the surgery. Although I went faster than most (self-pay), I thought each week dragged on leading up to the surgery. Now that I have the surgery, I feel like each day drags. Now I can't wait to be 6 months post-op. 

Probably trying to be complimentary but just didn't realize that it was a back handed sting. i would just blow it off to ignorance of someone who has not been in your shoes. Unfortunately our society still looks at the outside packaging and not the human being inside. When you get to your goal I'll bet you will be getting a ton of compliments.

 I just want to say I feel your pain.  I had someone very close to me that kept saying "I worry about your health... and you aren't meant to be a big girl".  Which basically translated to me as "ummm, your fat and you are obviously blind because you are not changing it without me telling you this statement".   

Why is it people think that we don't know what we look like or how unhealthy our habits were and why is it that they fail to think how hurtful their statements can be.  

I remember when I went to fertility testing years ago... my mom said "some people just aren't meant to have babies" and I wanted to scream at her for her stupid insensitivity.    It falls under the same principal idea that people don't know how to be a true support without that backwards kick to the gut sometimes getting in the way.  My mother is supportive sometimes, but most of the time I am looking for the knife that is about to cut me wide open emotionally... so I have learned to deal with it in my own way.

Sorry to hear that happened to you in a place of business of all things...from someone you like its even worse.  I hope things go better for you in the future.  And trust me... there will also be a time when you probably think... "why didn't they notice me before I lost all this weight", when you are on the flip side of your surgery.  I tell my boyfriend, "thanks for seeing me when noone else did"

 Just be thankful that you're pretty. Think of all the poor UGLY fat girls, who don't even get the backhanded compliments, lol! There's always someone worse off than us. Be happy...

lol for real.  At least your a * pretty * fat girl  Me !!!!!! Not at all I do not make a pretty fat woman.  When I saw my damn picture for my passport i was like OMFG.  That cant be me.  I swear I didnt recognize myself.  I was like well that in and of it self is enough to make up my mind about this surgery.  If i ever get nervy about it I just look at that photo.  Its aweful.  I look like a damn bullfrog.  Im so over it.