A little overwhelmed right now..

I knew what to expect when I decided to have surgery, and I knew that this was going to be a tough journey - it's just hard to think that all of my friends and family continue their lives the way that it was before I had surgey. I know that sounds a little bit selfish, and I don't expect them to change their lives because I decided to change mine - it's just hard to know they are going out to eat, or to the bar every night or every other night and I have to avoid those situations for right now.

I need to get off the pity train and realize that this is what is best for me, and I already know that I am going to be happy with the end result, its so frustrating. More than anything, I am frustrated with myself for feeling this way because I know this too shall pass.

If anyone understands..its those of us here who have been where you are.  Just keep in mind that what you are going through right now is not going to last long.  Things do get better..much better..   Just take it one day at a time..and try and keep a positive attitude about the situation.  You are changing your life/health for the better.  All the things you worry about now..will be just a memory..or story that you share before too long.  Trust me..time may seem to go slow now, but before you know it you'll be feeling completely normal..AND enjoying your new way of life!!

Stay strong and you will get through it.. Just keep telling yourself that its so you can be better.. healthy.. this is what the forums here are for.. venting, advice, chatting, getting information, etc.. so keep up the good work.. and dont be so hard on yourself.. it will get better.. 

I know that you probably feel alone because everyone is going on about their way, but you have us your OH Family we are still here. If you can endure this for just a short time then things will be back to normal. Hang in there and try to find things that interest you while you are waiting on your transformation and healing.

Before you know it you will be looking good and proud you allowed yourself time to get adjusted. Take care. I hope you find comfort.

Hang in there, girl, it will get better, I promise.

The first few weeks after my surgery I would get so mad at my naturally thin boyfriend because he made homemade lasagna and wanted to tell me how great the sauce was...or he would pop in with taco bell.

Even though I knew I was the one who chose the surgery, it was hard to watch others eating in front of me. Once I moved on to solids though, I didn't have those feelings anymore. I feel pretty lucky in that I was one who lost my hunger, so I am sure that has helped, but for the most part I am easily satisfied by my protein and don't envy whatever it is that others are eating...I am too in love with the results!

The first few weeks are the hardest and then it gets much easier!

Lindsey

Sometimes I feel like my family doesn't understand. They keep telling me I can go out... well yeah, I can go out, but where do I go? I am used to going out for dinner, or going to the bar, or going swimming (only a few more days before I can do that, hopefully that will take some stress off  ) and I'm not quite ready to do much physical exercise other than walk and use little 5 pound weights, so what is a girl to do?

It's ok for them to have their lives, and it's ok for you to feel bummed out a little.  Don't be down on yourself.  Think of things you can do.  For my first week post op family and friends "walked me" twice a day.  it sounds silly but it was fun.  You can go to the movies with your friends or have them come over for movie night.  One night one of my best friends, and an awesome cook, made lasagna, and posted the prebake pic on FB with a who wants to come to dinner invite.  I was 8 days post op and knew the company would  be as good as the food.  I had to pass and replied, please freeze me a slice.  She replied "done"  That was a hard night, but soon I'll be ready to rejoin the party but with much smaller portions.  And not worrying about breaking the chair! 
She was just as worried about loosing me as a dinner guest as I was sad to miss the dinner.  I think that as supportive as they are this is hard for our friends too because they aren't sure how the outcome will change us all.  Especially our eating buddies.   be patient with them and yourself.  Kim

Eventually you will be able to go out again. There are ways to handle the challenge of eating out and you can always get sometime non alcoholic at the bar even if it is water. If your friends are any kind of friends they will understand support you and accomodate.