It's so hard to watch my mother kill herself..

Hi Sassy,

I know you've heard a lot of good advice here, and maybe some of it will work for you in dealing with your mom.  I hope so. 

I just have a thought, and I'm certainly no expert in these matters so just take it for what it's worth.  I don't know your mom, so I could be way off base here, but it seems to me that often people can be so depressed and defeated by their situations that they feel the only solution is to accept what they have become and then rationalize their position to themselves and others. They may really want to change, but simply are afraid to hope. 

Maybe you've already tried it, but, in the hope that maybe deep down she hasn't given up on herself, have you considered just leaving positive information around the house (various posts from this board or whatever else you might have - maybe stories from people in similar positions to hers who have had some success).  Not asking her to read it.  Just leaving it where she might be tempted to pick it up when no one is looking.  I don't think that negative information (i.e. "what will happen to you if you don't lose weight/use cpap/whatever.........) would be likely to make much of an impact, but if you could get her to hope, and to see a chance for herself, maybe something would click for her.

That's all I've got.  It's probably worth no more than you paid for it.  It's always so hard when you want to help people you care about and can't find a way to do it. 

Anyway, I wish you the best of luck with the situation. 

Dick