"Why did you do THAT to yourself?"

My parents are in town and have been for the mat week and a half.  I told them of my surgery in February, but this is their first time seeing my up close.

I would have been nice to hear "hey you look great" , but instead I have spend the last week plus answering "why would you do that to yourself?".

For the love of God, I have really BAD knees (as do both of my parents, knee replacements).  I am half their age and I limp like they do, 58 pounds lighter.

I have not tried to convert them in anyway.  I have indulged their every whim, for buffets etc. I just do my thing and eat my potions.  You would think I was rushing them away from the buffet or damn restaurant.

Them leave tomorrow.  I am/was happy to see them.  They are getting older and I know our time is precious.  I just don't want to keep getting the bull**** "poor you" looks comments, and expressions.

Thanks for letting me vent!

Fay

Im sorry 
That sucks. Its hard when people don't "get it" or at least respect that you're doing nothing more than taking care of yourself. We get it… and support your hot lil skinny ass!

Speaking of HOT... you look Marvelous!!!  You are a completely new person!

Nice job!

Parents, you gotta love them....I feel ya. My mom asked me the other day if I was going to stop losing weight soon because I am begining to look like a CRACKHEAD"....Really, WTH!!! Old folks say anything at anytime. Just look at them, say ok, put in in one ear and out the other, and keep it movin!

Thanks for making me laugh..."crackhead", really?  They are all out of control!

The bad thing about it is that my ex was a crackhead and he never lost weight!!!  So my thought was, how would your old butt know what a "crackhead" looks like??? LOL AND I was 30 lbs lighter than this when I was in the Navy....Ann dont have a clue!!!

Oh Girl I feel ya!  I really doesn't matter what we do... The "rents" (parents) are always gonna know better, judge, have different ideas etc.  At least you have the courage to face them.  I have avoided trips to see them until this fall just so I don't have to face what you are describing.

You ARE doing all the right things for you.  You ARE making POSTIVE changes in your life.  You have given yourself the GIFT of a brighter future and you HAVE taken CONTROL of your weight.  

All we can do is love them, indulge them, breathe deep and tolerate them... Before you know it they will be talking to others about you, how great you look, just like it was their idea for you to do this!!

Keep the faith girl, keep the faith...  You are doing GREAT  - You look GREAT and we LOVE YOU!

Laura

Sadly I have been a smart-ass.  It really got to me and I started giving smart responses, like... "I just wanted some time off from work and did not have any regular leave so i had surgery". 

Fay

That's a good one....wish I would have thought of it!!! LMAO

My favorite reply has always been " so I don't end up in a pine box earlier!" My concern was co-morbidities and the medications needed to just live life if I continued being morbidly obese. Carrying a pill counter with Monday through Sunday for morning, noon, and night was not appealing at the ripe age of 30.