"Why did you do THAT to yourself?"

OMG!  I am gonna have to borrow this one...Thanks

Funny thing about family sometimes...  they can be 'gently' reminding you that you need to lose weight every time they see you, then turn around and pitch a little fit when you finally say enough is enough, and plan WLS. 

I had that with my beloved grandma, bless her heart.  She was joyful when insurance denied me back 10 years ago.  I loved her to pieces, but did not enjoy our discussions over my weight.

You are doing great Fay!  Rant away.  My mama has been very supportive but still doesn't always get it.  She asks " When can you have dessert again?"  And says my skin will bounce back--I am 51!  So I tell her that I don't want dessert.  I can eat whatever I want because what I want is healthy food on my plan and that at this age, no the skin won't all spring back.  I tell my friends and family at meals not to feel "sorry" for me because I eat good food and I am FULL! 

"Bones dont jiggle"

I know they mean well.  I am trying to understand their lack of support (not really)

Hi,

I know what you are going through....my mother who I am very close with was very unsupportive at first...She is very against surgery and sort of distrustful of doctors in the first place...

She said it was too extreme and that I needed to lose weight on my own....like I hadn't tried that before.. LOL.

Anyhow, both my parents are obese but are not suffering the health problems I was, so they just didn't get it...

I just avoided talking about the surgery for awhile with her, then switched tactics and just talked very positively about it, and cut her off if she was negative...I told her and my best friend who was also giving me issues with it, that I WAS doing it regardless and I needed them to support me, period the end.....somewhere along the way, they both became supportive....maybe they are still against it personally, but they learned to shut up with the negativity to me because I had gotten very blunt with them....that I loved them and all, but this was about ME and it was my body and right and not theirs...

Whe I was 288, 306, 295#s the NEVER asked "why am I doing that to myself" once.  My mom tells me daily how she simply CUT HER PORTIONS IN HALF, to lose weight.  I would if I could is my standard response.  When that fails I go hardcore/smart-ass.

I love my parents but sometimes they can be a bit dramatic. My dad is currently visiting and just yesterday he looked at me and got this sad look on his face, and said "it just looks like you haven't eaten in a year.... are you sure this is what you wanted?" First, I thought, uhh, really? A year? I just had surgery three weeks ago! but, uhh, thanks for the... compliment? I just smiled and assured him I was happy with my decision. Even though I'm grown, I'm still the baby and only girl in the family so I'm used to the third degree in every decision I make, but In the end, I can't worry about other people's thoughts towards the surgery or it's effects-- they don't have to live in this body. Know the you made the right decision for YOU even if others don't quite understand it yet.

Glad to know my parent are normal (abnormal).  I am starting to think they just dont know how to approach the subject.  They cant think it makes us feel good.  SMDH!

Parents, you gotta love 'em. Though I am nowhere near my goal weight, my mother tells me everytime I see her that I need to stop it with all this weight loss nonsense because she can clearly see the bones protuding from my neck. I just give her a blank stare, like lady were you not the one who used to take me to Weigh****chers and the many othere weight loss programs out there when I was a teenager? She has ver had to worry about her weight....Lucky woman, she stands 5'9 at 160lbs. Just do what I do sometimes, smile and nod or change the topic of conversation.

Good Luck,

Oh I love em...I just dont like them very much right now.  My mom went from a size 28 to a 16 with her portion remedy.  I am THRILLED for her.  I just could not do it and maintain it..