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on 8/2/11 11:02 am
on 8/2/11 11:02 am
Ok is exactly like my ex. The tear you down and make offers game is horribly bad for your mind. Stop contact. Tell him all contact is to be directly related to you daughter and nothing more. Hang up when he starts that. Don't read hateful emails for at least a week, then only to keep if they threaten you in anyway. Get away from him. He will continue to try for a long while but you are still better off. If you can follow this, it will get better in time, but he may still make attempts to get in your life. Just block it if you can.
Good luck, be strong and believe in yourself.
Good luck, be strong and believe in yourself.
I get it. I'm there too. It's definitely easier to intellectualize and articulate than it is to do in real life. No matter how bad he was and is, divorce still sucks.
Hang in there. You'll make it through. Just go file the papers and minimize your contact with him. Unfortunately, you cannot control what he does or does not do with your daughter. That is a hard pill to swallow, but it's true. All you can do is be the best parent you can be on your end.
Like I said, I'm right there with you. You'd think the abuse would end when you leave, but it doesn't and that sucks. I'm sorry.
Hang in there. You'll make it through. Just go file the papers and minimize your contact with him. Unfortunately, you cannot control what he does or does not do with your daughter. That is a hard pill to swallow, but it's true. All you can do is be the best parent you can be on your end.
Like I said, I'm right there with you. You'd think the abuse would end when you leave, but it doesn't and that sucks. I'm sorry.
" I am not at all concerned with appearing to be consistent. In my pursuit after Truth I have discarded many ideas and learnt many new things." Ghandi 
Kanga,
Listen to me and listen good. I am divorced from a very mentally abusive man for 16 years now. We were married for 17 years with 2 children.. when he decided he no longer want to be married and left the house. that was the end of the conversation... He called several times a day to talk, however, I would not answer or told him any further talking would be to my lawyer only...
He would bash me with our children but I never did.. a wise women told me that when my children grew up they would know who was the better parent. And now they have....
The day he left I consider my rebirth day.. I changeed 100%.. I knew I could never live with him again and did not want to.. So, i changed my job, dove into being the best mother I could and surrounded my6self with a great group of women...
I only wish I had my sleeve back then, however, I have lived a wonderful life on my own (nobody will ever abusive me again).............
Remember the person you are, will be the people your children will become.. Show them strenght.. You can do it...
Listen to me and listen good. I am divorced from a very mentally abusive man for 16 years now. We were married for 17 years with 2 children.. when he decided he no longer want to be married and left the house. that was the end of the conversation... He called several times a day to talk, however, I would not answer or told him any further talking would be to my lawyer only...
He would bash me with our children but I never did.. a wise women told me that when my children grew up they would know who was the better parent. And now they have....
The day he left I consider my rebirth day.. I changeed 100%.. I knew I could never live with him again and did not want to.. So, i changed my job, dove into being the best mother I could and surrounded my6self with a great group of women...
I only wish I had my sleeve back then, however, I have lived a wonderful life on my own (nobody will ever abusive me again).............
Remember the person you are, will be the people your children will become.. Show them strenght.. You can do it...
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