Whats he thinking or is his loosing his Mind????

Hi
well i have been on this weight loss path pretty hot and heavy since january w/ weigh****chers and eventually with a bariatric program that my insurance requires so that if i didnt lose what i needed to i would be set up for surgery. My husband was supportive but not a nag, seemed to be understanding what was going on. End of Aug we saw the Surgeon, final step before submitting to insurance and he has gone off his rocker on it maybe 3 times since. Maybe nervous or a little insecurity but jeez it was odd for him. Says he is okay with it all . Just wondering if anyone experienced something like this with there spouse?

Oh yeah I have. My hubby was freaked about never eating as a family again, spending meal times alone and other general concerns. I just sat with him let him vent it all out then responded. I ask him nowdaily or weekly how he is doing with it. Oh, I also calmly told him all my emotions and feelings on it. I explained it all and we are now all set.

My husband is always very supportive of me in my weight loss journey, and there have been so many over the years. The only thing I found odd this time was when he said to me, is it really going to work this time? I was a little hurt, as I also had a band put in that was not successful. Maybe that's where his comment stems from, he is probably thinking here she goes again on another weight loss thing. Since I am self pay it's a lot of bucks to dish out for non success.

But I must say, with all the success I read on this site, I have made the right choice. One month from today VSG for me! Good luck to you all.

 I think this surgery definately has an impact on family members. Not only are you going to change in some ways (hopefully healthier and more active ways), but your dining experience that you have shared with your family will change as well. 

My program's monthly support group in August was a discussion on the impact of the family. Sadly I missed it as I was not approved to drive yet at that point. But I thought it was a great idea to talk about. 

alot of husbands have a hard time dealing with it, wondering if their wives will change with the weight loss and leave them if they are thinner and have other options, they wonder if they are losing their eating partners..

i understand the insecurity and i tried to reasure him its so we can be active for the rest of our lives. He is in great shape and runs and works out regularly in fact last year we got a gym member ship and worked out together but it was just to far from the house to be convient for before or after work. He did mention that hes gone through that with guys flirting or what ever and at 45 doesnt really want to go through it all over again. He hasnt said anything since last week in a negative way so maybe he has gotten his brain arround it.

Eating hasnt anything to do with it though i'm a professionally trained chef and italian even though my eating will change my love of cooking for my family wont

My DH and I were both in much better shape when we married. But he asked me just a couple of days ago if I would still love him when I had a new body. Just asked out of nowhere. It caught me off guard. The weird thing is that I often feel like people look at my handsome husband and think "Well, she must have been attractive at some point in her life if he married her." Not that he has ever said anything EVER, but I never want people to see me and think poorly of him for being with me. I want him to be proud to be seen with me. And that is my issue to deal with.