Tell me again why I shouldn't get pregnant...
A big fat huge monster tricky thing for me to learn, learn, relearn, is..
Not every feeling I have needs something DONE about it.
Its okay to just BE bored, like its okay to be sad, like its okay to be angry. Stifling all my feelings with DOING got me in trouble before, and learning how to just have a feeling and not follow through with a compulsion to DO SOMETHING about it has served me well.
Be sweet girlie. Something I believe in firmly is that the first bit of our weight loss journey is not the time to start making a bunch of life changing decisions, because we are seriously in the throes of some hormonal wonkiness, and if its a good idea now, it will be a good idea in a bit, after life has settled and we are not, emotionally, going in a zillion directions.
Take care of you and your gurl!
Not every feeling I have needs something DONE about it.
Its okay to just BE bored, like its okay to be sad, like its okay to be angry. Stifling all my feelings with DOING got me in trouble before, and learning how to just have a feeling and not follow through with a compulsion to DO SOMETHING about it has served me well.
Be sweet girlie. Something I believe in firmly is that the first bit of our weight loss journey is not the time to start making a bunch of life changing decisions, because we are seriously in the throes of some hormonal wonkiness, and if its a good idea now, it will be a good idea in a bit, after life has settled and we are not, emotionally, going in a zillion directions.
Take care of you and your gurl!
When you get bored read or walk play video games play fashion show with your little girl... try a Frisco recipe I know you have a million things to do. Boredom messes with your head. and damn! be as careful as you should be everytime!!! The last thing you need is more stress!! I'm so on your side. I think a year from now you'll be laughing about this.
putting one foot in front of the other... 
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Kanga,
I haven't had surgery yet, but I am scheduled next week and of course the main thing on my mind is when will I be able to have a baby. I have two adoptive daugthers that I love dearly but I would love to experience being pregnant. My husband also wants a baby and stated that we should wait until we have been married a year to try. Its been over a year (we've been together for 7 years) and I am yearning for a baby. My youngest is 6. I already feel that is too much time in between. But I have no choice and of course the clock is ticking I am 38 years old. I have PCOS and I hope that this will help with me being able to conceive even though I will be almost 40 by the time I am able to. I am going to be good and stick with the year rule so that I can take care of myself first and then hopefully my baby will come. Good luck to you, just make sure you are healthy first so that your baby can be healthy.
I haven't had surgery yet, but I am scheduled next week and of course the main thing on my mind is when will I be able to have a baby. I have two adoptive daugthers that I love dearly but I would love to experience being pregnant. My husband also wants a baby and stated that we should wait until we have been married a year to try. Its been over a year (we've been together for 7 years) and I am yearning for a baby. My youngest is 6. I already feel that is too much time in between. But I have no choice and of course the clock is ticking I am 38 years old. I have PCOS and I hope that this will help with me being able to conceive even though I will be almost 40 by the time I am able to. I am going to be good and stick with the year rule so that I can take care of myself first and then hopefully my baby will come. Good luck to you, just make sure you are healthy first so that your baby can be healthy.
Thanks for the reply! I also have PCOS, but time is a little more on my side... I'll be 31 next month, so IF i am able to get pregnant at the year mark I'll have time to get one, maybe even 2, babies in before the 35 mark... though I know people are having healthy babies and pregnancies later and later! Good luck to you too!!!
Pull my posts about how difficult it is mentally being pregnant after weight loss surgery. Grant it, I'm over 2 years out, and can support my body and the growing baby with good amounts of food and nutrients, but the mental struggles, hormone rages, the constant cravings, the pains of pregnancy, least to say ARE NOT PLEASANT.
Getting pregnant was my main driving force to having WLS. However, I simply refused to get pregnant until my body had stabilized and I could eat more food without having to supplement with processed shakes.
Don't get me wrong, pregnancy is great thing and it's been an uneventful pregnancy thus far. BUT, the mental toll it has taken on me has been my major struggle.
The risks to the baby are numerous, but several (100s) of women get pregnant shortly after WLS and are able to thrive in pregnancy. The baby will pull from your body what it needs to survive. It's mainly your body (your teeth, your muscle mass, your energy level) can all be compromised by having another developing human pulling every nutrient, calorie, carb out of your body to grow.
I was released at 8 months for TTC because I was below goal, my labs were great, but it took us a year to get pregnant. I endured 2 chemical pregnancies which were devastating, and extremely emotionally tasking on our marriage. So, while I understand and empathize with your sense of urgency, I would make sure you weigh all the pros and cons to getting pregnant.
It hasn't been all sunshine and daisies shooting out my ass least to say ;)
Getting pregnant was my main driving force to having WLS. However, I simply refused to get pregnant until my body had stabilized and I could eat more food without having to supplement with processed shakes.
Don't get me wrong, pregnancy is great thing and it's been an uneventful pregnancy thus far. BUT, the mental toll it has taken on me has been my major struggle.
The risks to the baby are numerous, but several (100s) of women get pregnant shortly after WLS and are able to thrive in pregnancy. The baby will pull from your body what it needs to survive. It's mainly your body (your teeth, your muscle mass, your energy level) can all be compromised by having another developing human pulling every nutrient, calorie, carb out of your body to grow.
I was released at 8 months for TTC because I was below goal, my labs were great, but it took us a year to get pregnant. I endured 2 chemical pregnancies which were devastating, and extremely emotionally tasking on our marriage. So, while I understand and empathize with your sense of urgency, I would make sure you weigh all the pros and cons to getting pregnant.
It hasn't been all sunshine and daisies shooting out my ass least to say ;)
Band to VSG revision: June 3, 2009
SW 270lbs GW 150lbs CW Losing Pregancy Weight Maintenance goal W 125-130lbs
SW 270lbs GW 150lbs CW Losing Pregancy Weight Maintenance goal W 125-130lbs
I mainly lurk over there, reply occasionally. I'm pretty sure I've never posted a new topic over there. The ladies are all a very close-knit, tight group. It's not a very active forum on a daily basis. There are a lot of ladies that have been through a lot of stuff together over there, and well you put a bunch of WLS patients with 40000 different hormone levels going on, it's a bit dramatic sometimes over there.
But, there is some good information on there occasionally.
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/postop_pregnancy/
But, there is some good information on there occasionally.
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/postop_pregnancy/
Band to VSG revision: June 3, 2009
SW 270lbs GW 150lbs CW Losing Pregancy Weight Maintenance goal W 125-130lbs
SW 270lbs GW 150lbs CW Losing Pregancy Weight Maintenance goal W 125-130lbs
Thank you... I know that there will be struggles... it is just something I want SO much that it seems like they will all be worth it...
BUT don't we all think that until we actually have to deal with it all...? I am sure that I will be in a better place a year or so from now... I just have to stay strong.
Chances are I won't have much luck anyway... sigh.
Sorry to hear about the chemical pregnacies... I can only imagine how devistating :-(
BUT don't we all think that until we actually have to deal with it all...? I am sure that I will be in a better place a year or so from now... I just have to stay strong.
Chances are I won't have much luck anyway... sigh.
Sorry to hear about the chemical pregnacies... I can only imagine how devistating :-(
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