Husbands & Surgery??

Well I am 9 days from surgery & I start my (CIB) liquid diet!!   Just now figuring things out and making myself feel comfortable with what i will have to eat!  So of course I want to talk to my husband about everything!  He just reacts in such "oh" !!   I guess what reaction do I want .... I want him to be as excited as I am!!   What is your opinions & how do I keep from this being all of our conversations??  Thanks again to all of you that have been such a big help already!!  xoxoxo  

Hubbys have a hard role!!!! Mine is an example He loved me at 318 he loves me at 192.Does he love me any diff. hmmmmm to be honest . He always said great job or okay no big reaction.I have discovered he braggs about me to everyone but me why think about it really..I think he doesnt want me to feel any less or more now that I have slimmed down.He danced with me at 318 sex life was there. The later has increased alot .Heck I was going into the groc store last night and he cat whistled at me lol.I am 46 and he is 50. I laughed back and said dirty old man. Sometimes I think in fair honesty that I am glad he didnt over react about weight loss he makes me feel stilled loved wether I am 318 or 192. I know he is very pleased by the results.Get over it and just keep using him as a sound boardThey take in more than they show.It is one of those dammed if they do and dammed if they dont situations. 

  Thanks for the advice Kim!!  Very Helpful!   

anytime. Also remember they get a little insecure as our weight goes down.Let him know he is the **** of the walk as you go down.I noticed now that I am in a size 10 I get alot more looks and noticed by more men and his arm slips around me more to show posseson than it ever did. This will be a change for him to. We have been married 19yrs he made a comment one time (is the new you gong to love the same old me)I laughed and told him he was stuck, but for him to make this comment he was feeling insecure.

 My husband is the same way. He will listen when I talk, but  doesn't really ask too much about the surgery. I'm 10 days away and I can't wait!

I make a definite effort to not constantly talk about my surgery and weightloss with my husband.  He is very supportive, but I don't want to overload him.  Honestly, I think about surgery, this board, posts people have made, my weightloss, my meals, or working out, about 20% of the day.  It's on my mind a lot (in a good way though, I think).  I try very hard to bring up this stuff no more than half of the time when it crosses my mind.  I try to think before I speak...    So, I guess, thinking before speaking is my advice :)

If I am telling my husband something and I need him to be a certain way, I tell him. For instance, "I'm going tell you something, but I need you to be really excited about it". Yeah, it sounds silly, but he doesn't know that I need him to dance around and act like a fool if I don't tell him. It's taken me 18 years of marriage to realize that I just have to spell it out for him sometimes They aren't actually mind readers (sigh).

Your husband is not acting different from anyone else's.  They all act like that with or without wls!