Getting treated differently when you are overweight

I finished my Options classes October 6th but I have to lower my bad cholesterol and I am low in Vitamin D so I have to take the supplements my MD prescribed me for 12 Weeks for them to sign me off and send it to the surgeon for my consultation. Was hoping to have surgery by the end of this year bummer. I have been feeling soo depressed lately due to personal family issues and the fact that I am soo insecure about my weight which is so weird because I never was before. Guess I just started noticing how different people and even family can treat you when you are overweight. I don't understand why it gets to me now, it never did before. Have any of you ever felt this way? Maybe I am just to anxious and want my vsg quick! Lol. I feel like my life is on hold.

I was never one to let my size get in the way of anything I wanted to do, until I found myself avoiding people I didn't see often because I didn't want them to see how big I'd gotten. And it's funny, now maybe I'll have the heart to not avoid them, but I won't be able to talk about weight loss, because they won't know. What will I talk about if not that? It's all I think about!

I so far told a few family members and coworkers, most of which act like they are supportive. Maybe the fact that my hubby is going to the police academy and I already met his buddys wives who look like trophy wives, although they were nice to me, who knows what they were really thinking. I do find myself more and more missing certain special events lately and I never did before. I was a happy outgoing person, guess deep inside I never was as happy as I thought I was.
Good luck to you Thank you for sharing.

I felt the same way after I lost 133lbs and then gained 85 back. All of a sudden I became so self conscious of my weight. I think its because I finally noticed the difference in how I was treated. I found that when I go to the store guys would hold the door open for me even if they had to wait for me. In the past, they just let the door shut in my face like I wasn't there. People smile at you more when your skinny and  women talk about things like hair and clothes with you. More people at work ask you to join them for lunch excursions. people started treating me like I became smarter too. I have always been smart and have a high IQ but people didnt come to me to ask questions until I lost the weight.   I am not sure if it was my behavior changed due to confidence and that encouraged people to treat me better or If it was just the sterotypes regarding obese people. Or a combination of both.  But I have found that now that my weight increased the doors are no longer held for me, no invitations to lunch and not talk of clothes anymore.   I know that you want to get it done immediately but you also want it to be done safely and make sure you are approved through your health insurance too. That stuff takes time...  Maybe you can use the time to learn more of the habits you will need for after the surgery like eating small bites, chewing alot, setting down the spoon for a minute or two, not drinking and eating at the same time, not drinking 30 min before and after meals, becoming more active and such.     Thats what I have tried to do in my wait time. Also I asked a million questions here and at other websites as well as doctor and nutritionist.    I wish you well on your journey.

Thank you. That's exactly what I have been doing alot of research. Have you had weightloss surgery? Its so sad. When I use to be thin in highschool, I was treated so different by guys, girls and certain family members. of course there was always those jerks (back in my thin days) who would stare you down like you were a piece of meat! Now that kind of attention I don't miss! Just miss normal size clothes, my energy, wearing pumps without being in pain after only 10 minutes of wearing them and the list goes on and on doesn't it? Thank you and good luck to you.

No I am scheduled for this Sat.  I lost it from 2004 to 2008 by rigid diet and exercise, then I hurt my back and the weight came back. It was the only time I was ever even close to normal sized in my life I was a sz 14 then.  I loved finally going to normal stores and being able to fit into something that was cute and comfortable. Thanks for the good wishes... and same goes to you...

Wow, this Saturday. Good for you. Hope everything goes well and that you have a speedy recovery Take care.

 There is a doctor where I work that can be pretty rude to me and I have known him for years. Lately (the last month or so) he has been more friendly to me. WHen I mentioned this to a friend of mine she said he problably was prejudice against obese people., I am beginning to think the same thing. Pretty sad because I am still the same person just less of me. 

I've always been overweight, but the most hurtful thing was said to me by an aunt.  She was looking at my wedding pictures and started singing "Here comes the bride: big, fat, and wide."  I've been married for 12  1/2 years and the memory still brings me pain.  The only ones in my family who know I've had surgery are the one's I trust--namely my mom and sister.  I don't care to inform any of the others.  I don't need their judgment.