Goal... is it all its cracked up to be... Im that whiney *****....

Okay, now Im that ***** Whining at goal... FML. I just am wondering out loud and wondering what you my WLS peers think. So my inital goal was 150. I did a Tummy Tuck at 5 months out at 159 and left the surgical center a day later at 149. I now weigh 137 - 139 daily with 135 being my lowest ever weight. So 15 pounds below goal. I thought for sometime about going lower, just for no other reason than 130 sounded nice but my body seems to naturally rest where I am without much work. Heres the real stupid whiney part. How the **** do you know when your at the right weight? I love my body at 135 - 139.... BUT I love my face at 150 - 160, I HATE MY BODY in the higher weight range though. Now I know this sounds vain... I openly cop to being a vain mutha fucka... so whats the deal... for those of you who have been here and those who are on their way... which is it that is more important to you, how do you decide. That being said I just refuse to put on weight. I have tons of size 26 and 27 jeans and theres no way I am gonna gain 10 - 15 pounds for a fuller face but how the hell do you just get over it... or am I insane?!?!?!?! I am actually trying botox in May, I picked up a groupon so it was super cheap and am hoping it makes me a lil happier with the way the weight loss has affected my face. Im hoping for a little brow lift out of it. I dont mean to be a whiney lil ***** I know for those still in the weight loss process this all seems so ******g petty but its just one of those things that kinda catches you off gaurd and drives ya nuts! Ill take the effects on my face over the weight any day of the week I just wonder how everyone else has felt about this in their journey and how they have adressed it. I just miss the fullness in my face, it kinda makes one look a lil more youthful, no?

My face at about 160

Body at 165ish




Face at 135

Body at 135

 Just out of curiosity, what don't you like about your face at this weight? It looks completely normal, healthy and pretty to me! Your skin is firm and plenty youthful. I completely understand the desire to have plastics done for skin removal-- it's not about vanity, it's about being comfortable. I just don't see the need for facial plastics when there's nothing wrong to begin with! I know it's fuddy-duddy and old fashioned to say you should love yourself for how you are, but Jen, you do need to! There is absolutely not a thing wrong with you, and I'm being genuine when I say that. I'm not one to beat around a bush just to placate people. If you got a big nose or thin lips and ask my opinion, I'm gonna be honest. My honest opinion here is there is nothing to fret about.

I know what other people think doesn't mean nearly as much as how a person thinks of themselves. I just wanted to let you know that you absolutely do not need to do one iota more if appearances are what you are concerned about.

 Thanks so much for your honest response. I think part of why Im so messed up in the head about this is everyone of my friends and family members is doing the "you look too skinny" " youre face looks older you should gain weight" "you look sick" and Im finding my head spinning like WTF totally confused. So Im staring at myself wondering if I "went to far" persay, ya know?
Thanks :)

I actually think you look younger in the face at the lower weight!  My first thought was that you reminded me a bit of Hillary Duff mixed with Kat Dennings.  You are ******g gorgeous!  I know that doesn't fix what YOU think, but damn.  I'm jealous. haha  Screw the haters who say you look sick or too skinny.  Your body is happy there, and you look hot.  **** 'em. ;)

Okay so you're probably not going to like this but i think it's probably more your age than you're weight.  When you were last this weight you probably looked a lot different facially.  I too am having that and it is simply a function of age.  I remember years ago when i was having some work done and i wanted my plastic surgoen to pull some fat from my cheeks and he refused, saying your face will naturally thin down as you age and you'll end up looking like one of those wrinkled prunes.  ****** was right, even though i've photos of being lighter and i didn't have the fat sucked out, the **** i see when i look in the mirror is horrific.  Accordian **** happening and i think it would be better if i gained but i like the way clothes look on me and i was miserable heavier, so i don't think there is anyway around it it is one or the other.  Yeah you're whiny, a real Sophie's choice you got there. BTW because your face was fuller 20lbs ago doesn't mean it's going to redistrbute the same way.  You could end up with a hunchback.  Chew on that.

 OMG ******g love your response! hahah you rock!

You are VERY beautiful.... I love how your face looks now... It fits your body great... But you looked good at the 150-160 also... Id take the lower and love it.. your beautiful and deserve to be happy with your looks.... :) var fctb_tool=null; function FCTB_Init_a94cdf2cab0a487fb112d5384b6ebba6(t) { fctb_tool=t; start(fctb_tool); } FCTB_Init_a94cdf2cab0a487fb112d5384b6ebba6(document['FCTB_Init_e7c4f0258d644fd29bb7b7d87964c360']); delete document['FCTB_Init_e7c4f0258d644fd29bb7b7d87964c360']

 No kidding- beautiful face!  I vote for staying at the lower weight- better body and beautiful face :)

I get it. I do. And I don't think you're being a whiny ***** (a skinny ***** maybe, but not whiny ....I'm just getting my surgery tomorrow and I already worry about getting the gaunt look that you see on a lot of WLS people. I think your face is beautiful at both weights. Not sure if that helps at all, just my 2 cents

Thanks girl... I exactly the look you mean. I worried about that early out as well... then kinda forgot about it all excited to lose weight and now im back thinking OMG am I now that ***** Princess Gaunty.... no please no lol