Depressed

First of all, big hugs to you!  Depression is never fun, no matter the reasons behind it. 

One thing I have learned is that there will be some months when I lose less than other months for a variety of reasons... not always anything I can control.  Last month I was on a variety of medications, was nursing a leg injury, and was changing up my workouts... and I was mad that the scale didn't want to behave like I thought it should.  This month, my body seems to be catching up with my efforts.  So far.  Of course, I have about three more weeks to go before I can say how this month went, so we'll see...

I think that any time that you are considering therapy is a great time to go to therapy.  If you're to the point where you know that you need to reach out, go ahead and do it.  Very important to listen to your instincts on this one. 

As far as the "set point" thing is concerned: I personally don't buy into that... I already have gotten to about what I weighed at 18, and my body is still losing.  I think that, subconsciously, some of us have mental blocks up about getting past that point, but there are so many variables at play here that I don't think we can say that just because we were x weight when we graduated from high school means that we should strive for that weight.  Some of us are actually in better shape now than when we graduated from high school, others will  never be in as good of shape as we were at that time... depends on where we were then and where we are now.  To me, blanket statements like that one never help us. 

A few other thoughts:

1) with the change of hormonal meds, you're bound to notice a difference in water weight.  It can take our bodies several weeks to adjust to those kinds of changes and get the scale moving again
2) the hormonal changes can also be contributing to the carb cravings.  Can you up your water and exercise a little, and see if that helps with the cravings?  Sometimes just flushing things out a little more makes a big difference.
3)  I'm sure you've read this over and over on other threads, but I'm gonna say it again: you can't compare yourself to anyone else here.  I have learned this the hard way... Sonjakp and I were sleeved one day apart, with the exact same surgeon, had the same starting weight, and she is ten years older than me with a lower starting BMI.  So, you would *think* I would lose more than her, right?  Since I had farther to go???  Not so much.  She was way ahead of me for the first few months... now that we are farther out, I'm ahead of her (if you want to call it that) in terms of pounds lost, but she is also at a normal BMI now, while I have about 15 pounds to go to get there since I'm several inches shorter than her.  With so many different factors, we really can't accurately compare progress with one another, and trying to do so just sets us all up to feel like failures.
4) you may not be fully healed yet from surgery (most dr's say it takes 6 months to be fully healed)... so you may not be feeling the full effect of your restriction yet.  This is where the idea of undereating your sleeve can be beneficial.  In my experience, this is much easier to do when I'm not letting unnecessary carbs slip in!

You have done so well so far!  Do what you have to do to take care of you, get some therapy sessions for the depression and food issue as you see necessary, and keep rocking that sleeve.  I have no doubt in my mind that you will get to goal when your body is ready.  Be nice to yourself in the mean time :)

 I have been changing up my exercise a lot this month.  Maybe that's part of the stall, muscle?

I agree that a large part of this is a mental block.  I've never been able to lose below the 223 pounds I weighed when I graduated high school (got to 218 once 12 years ago).  Maybe I'm self-sabotaging.   I've been overweight most of my life, so it's hard for me to imagine being smaller than that as an adult.

Definitely should up my water.  I've never achieved the 64 oz since surgery, though I could before surgery.  I'll work harder on that one.  Probably is the hormonal changes, but it's nice to hear someone else agree.  

I'm so bad to get on here and compare my progress to others.  I have a friend who was sleeved a year ago who still at this point loses faster than me.  She's been amazingly successful and has lost about 185 pounds so far.  Seems unfair she can still lose 2 pounds a week this far out.

Definitely need to be nicer to myself.  I'm my own worst critic.

When we change up our exercise, sometimes our muscles retain water while they adjust as part of the repair process.  This could certainly be a contributing factor.  And I know what you mean about it being hard to imagine that we can be smaller than we've ever been... I struggle with this one all the time.  I'll hold up a pair of pants that are the correct size and think, "no way in hell is my ass small enough for these" and then they'll fit.  It's freaky.  I think we all struggle with wrapping our brains around the reality that we really are doing this.

Uh yeah... 64 oz of water isn't enough for me.  On days that I run, I need about 100 oz of water; otherwise, about 80 usually does it.  If I don't get in enough water before I run, my body retains more water to use in muscle repair, and I don't lose.  Learned that one the hard way!

I wouldn't go so far as to say that YOU are bad to compare yourself to others... we all do it.  Just saying it's not fair or accurate to use that comparison as a basis for measuring your progress. 

We're usually our own worst critics, no matter what we're criticizing :)  You're doing great.  Give yourself some credit.

I'm about 2 months out and I've already battled depression. When I spoke to others who had it, they said the same thing. Its a very big hormonal readjustment. Remember, with the sleeve, you get the hormone gherlin (Sp?) taken out which throws off some of your hormonal balance. Going on and off birth control will DEFINITELY make you feel a bit down.  I didn't even menstruate the first month out and got super depressed a couple weeks ago where I wanted to cry all the time. Its a big shock to your body to go through something like this, so it will take a few months to adjust.

As far as calories, maybe you need to eat denser protein. I found some great chicken meatballs at trader joes along with some already cooked chicken that is cut into pieces to use in burritos, fajitas, etc. I just eat that with some greek yogurt on it. I love carbs and have to consciously stay away from them. I find the high density protein bars do the job although they don't taste that great...but I'm never hungry for hours after I eat one.

Stop getting on the scale. I had to do that because I lost 23 lbs rathr quickly and then stalled for about 2 weeks. I stopped weighing myself and just continued my days and could tell I was losing because my clothes were getting looser. So take it easy on yourself. If you need to see someone, do it. Or find a group near you that meets once a month. THis can be very isolating and we all need support.

But take it easy on yourself. You will be doing this the rest of your life. You deserve to give yourself time and praise.