Trip to visit in-laws--a little unsure.

Hmmm.  I have to think about that, as the true reward of Starbucks is getting away from everyone for a bit, which I suppose is like "numbing."  Or just avoiding.

Things to ponder while we're driving 10 hours!

It is really worth figuring out, one is a great reward and you feel empowered, the other is a way to numb discomfort and you would feel slightly out of body, and depersonalized.  One is walking you to your power, the other is just doing the same thing we used to do.  It is subtle, but very important difference.

Great point. Could you time box it in order to keep things balanced? Or, set as a ratio: I spent 6 hours with the fam, now I need 1 hour of "me" time.

Good luck. And, one more thought - don't forget the power of a simple, straightforward, "no thanks". Don't give details, or rationale, or anything they can get a hook into to start picking at. Think of it like a door to door salesperson. What works best? "No thanks". No judgment, no arguing, no hating. Just a statement.

Hang in there girl!

Hmmm.  The thing that makes me feel most empowered is exercise.  So, by this definition, my time at the Y would be my reward.

Who the hell am I becoming??????

Whether this helps on this visit or not (and I know it will), the knowledge that exercise makes me feel like I'm "walking into my power" is a game-changer.  Thanks, Elina!!  (as always)

I believe right now I'm going to say I "earn" an hour at the gym for every day we are in Idaho--so 3-4 times depending on when we arrive and what time we depart.  And, after I make that happen and meet my food plan goals, when we get back, I am going shopping and buying myself some really great lingerie, even though doing so when I'm not at goal is probably a waste of $$.  I know you know this area, so suggestions of stores other than VS are welcome.

I'm pretty sure that's one waste of $$ hubby won't mind. :)

I know a great little store in Los Gatos, I will even go with you.  I love this little treasure of a place.  The woman that owns it is an amazing person and she really get body issues and how to work with our population.  In addition, she has great taste and the prices are very reasonable (by boutique standards of course).   I'll go with you anytime.

I think your idea about the exercise is fantastic and you are really getting this whole thing down.  I am glad I can help a bit. 

Good luck Sarah. I'd feel the same way if I had to spend a week with my MIL. It's hard to be around negative people. You know what you're getting into though so that should help! Remember we are all here for you! :)

I will be rooting for you! Also, most libraries offer internet services. No food temptations and if you can find out their story times it can be something fun for the kidlets. I hope you have a great time. :-)

Great suggestion.  I'm a librarian, so you'd think I'd have thought of that!!

May I ask where in Idaho you will be visiting?  I live in Eagle and work in Boise and would love to meet you at a Starbucks should it be convenient!  

OMG you could be my lifeline!!!!  My MIL and her mother both live in Nampa.  We lived in Boise for about 3 years, near the Mormon temple.  I will pm you my cell phone #. 

It would just be awesome to meet up and chat with someone who "gets" it. :)