FIL died 8/1 -- eating!?!??!?! kinda long

Consider it done! Can I count the 40 I did at Orange Theory today?

NONE of us had WLS because we are in a good place with food.

Don't fool yourself into thinking that we aren't all on the razor's edge of keeping this all in check. That's a newbie mistake and you are too far out to think that way.

I don't think that way, but I do like to think that I have incorporated a lot of the changes I have made into my life. adopted them as a new way of eating, exercising, etc. I have educated myself so I know the things I did before were bad for multiple reasons but I also know why and how to get the same satisfaction from healthier choices. I can with confidence say that I will never sit down on the couch and eat an entire bag of chips again or a whole pizza. When I am stressed I take the dog for a walk instead of open the refrigerator door. Those things come to me fairly automatically now. I'd like to think they were true lifestyle changes. I fear that many on this board did not make that same transformation. Do I have my moments? sure but they are just that moments, they are not days, weeks, months at a time like they were before and you all may be right I can say that because I am only 10 months post-op and not 2-3 years. 

Ann, I so sorry to hear that your partner has lost her father after a long struggle.  Of course you have lost him as well.  You are both probably so exhausted physically and emotionally.  Then, on top of that, you have a difficult situation at work.  That's enough to knock most people off of their feet for a while.

Time has a way of blunting some of the stings in life, even if it doesn't eradicate them.  Now that the physical aspect of dealing with her father's illness and death has passed, perhaps you can both take a deep breath and will have more strength for the emotional healing. 

I know you want to take care of yourself so that you can take care of your dear one better.  Each day that will hopefully be a little easier to do.  You don't want her to worry about you.  I think her dad would want you both to be at peace.

I wish I had something wise and helpful to say, but words fail me.  Just wanted to give you a hug and let you know I'm pulling for you. 

Hi Ann, 

sorry to read about the loss of your FIL. My best to you and your wife/partner. 

I am going to suggest you consider the possibility of working with a therapist. You have a lot going on emotionally and sound as if you may be depressed. Situational depression is just as real as clinical depression. When one is in the dumps, phrases like getting on track, beat yourself up, it's okay, etc.... May be meant well, but don't really measure up to what is really needed- a voice of support and the actual calf folding to support your rise out of this current state. 

I know you know how to be on a good food program. I also know that you are a real person who uses food to help yourself cope. You are not alone in this. I hope you find the support you need to get yourself where you need to be. 

With strength! 

Damn iPad! Calf folding should read scaffolding. 

But I loved calf folding!!!  Sounded kind of cozy!  Thanks for your love and good thoughts.. Your a mensch!

Very sorry for your loss Ann. God bless!

Hugs Hun.

So, life happens. Deal with it the best way you can. Have a plan for getting BACK on track (that's one thing a lot of folks don't think about). Do what you have to do for the short term and keep your determination to get back on track when all of this recedes. Try to stay "mostly" on trac****il you feel like you can put the effort back into you. But, if it all goes to **** and folks are feeding you, eat the stupid purple cupcake.

Don't be stubborn (not that you ever are ). Get help if you need help. Talk if you need to talk. Listen when you need to listen.

Deal with today. Do the best you can with tomorrow.

If you **** up, make it just today and have a plan ready for tomorrow.

This is a journey. I mean really, what the **** else are you going to do?

Prayers and well-wishes to you and your wonderful wife.

Oh, and you can PM me anytime if you just want to vent a bad ******g day. I'm always here.