Had dinner with my my doctor :)

I decided to go to support group yesterday after skipping the last three or four (due to work schedule).  After work, I did not have enough time to go home and had to find something to eat on the quick before group.  I pulled into a random Subway about 40 min. before group and ran right into my surgeon.  :) 

After ordering the most healthy meal ever at Subway (chicken salad hold the dressing ), I sat down with my surgeon for a conversation.  My weight is a bit high (nothing too drastic, I am 112 now), but the point is that everyone, from my husband to my mother to my best friend prefers this weight on me.  It is really difficult to get motivated to lose the weight when I think I might look better at this weight.  Every time I get going on losing it, something comes up dissuade me from doing it.  Hence, the need for last night's group. 

This is what my surgeon told me, and his word is gold to me.  He said, and I quote, " Lose the weight".  His reasoning has nothing to do with how I look and everything to do with my weight history and health.  He reminded me that I looked great at 105 too and told me that being at the top end of my weight range at this age is a bad idea for me.  The bottom line is that weight creeps up over time and it's better to keep on the lower end and to have a five pound bounce back cushion.  We talked about weight, our lives, our dogs and just had time to catch up with each other.  I feel so blessed to have him in my life and to know that he truly cares about my well being and my health.   

We went to the support group and only two other people showed up.  This is very unusual as our group, but I ended up having his time and our dietitian almost all to myself for two hours.  It is not really that they can teach me how to lose weight at this point, but their friendship and support and humor goes a long way in helping me see through my own stuff and keep my head in the game.  The bottom line is I promised them that I would be back at 105 by the following meeting.  I guess my husband will have to file for divorce if he doesn't like it.  :)  (Alan, in case you are reading this, I am just kidding honey, I could never do this journey without you and your support).  Yes, it's true that I might look better at 112, but my history tells me that I need to keep a steady weight on the low end of the scale because weight creeps back up over the years. 

Now for the funny part, I woke up this morning and Dr. Cirangle has quite an effect on me, I lost 2.5 pounds already.  :)  Go figure?!

Are you under 5 feet tall? 105 seems emaciated. malnourished and anorexic. 

Yes, That is the LOWEST weight you should be IF you have a very small frame.....There is healthy and unhealthy at both ends of the weight spectrum. 

If you look at my profile, the picture where I am wearing a bikini, I am 103 lbs. I don't think I look anorexic there at all.  And the lowest weight I should be is actually 95 lbs.  I have no intention of going that low.  I thought I started to look a bit gaunt at about 101 lbs.  Thank you for your concern, I am sure you are coming from a place of care and respect, but I really got this one.  :)

I am 5'2 (okay, closer to 5'1 and 3/4).  :)

The optimal weight for my height is 108 lbs or so.  If you look at my photos, on my profile, you will see that I do not look emaciated at all.  :)

We have some very warped ideas about weight in modern culture.  

Are you a doctor? More specifically, are you Elina's doctor?

If the answer is no, then you don't really know what you're talking about and maybe you didn't mean to sound like a know-it-all or an a$$ but that is certainly how your post came across. I agree with the others that our culture really has a skewed view as to what "too thin" and "emaciated" looks like.

As someone that is one week out from surgery, new to this site, most likely NOT a physician and strangers with the OP, I do not feel as though you're qualified to make statements like this.

its all that subway food you know it helps people lose weight lol

I find the support groups sometimes more important than even the surgery to help me keep going

Im lucky my surgeon dropped the crap band support group(not enough people) and is going to have 2 meetings a month for all wls patients

stick to what your surgeon says and by next week you will be back on goal , as you get older it gets harder to lose so keep it off now

 you will look great at ether weight

you need to post some new pictures for incentive for others , remember its almost beach season

I can't figure out how to post to this new format.  Every time I try to post a picture, it comes out sideways. 

so rotate the picture the other way before posting it

You are assuming a level of technological knowledge that I clearly don't have.  :)  I suppose I could always bug my husband, he really love it when I come to him with tech issues, it allows him to "be my hero".  :)