It is no wonder I used to be so fat.

I would do the same get it our Asap.... and then tell him I'm sorry I need to do this for me.... tell him 1 time a week he can bring in some sort of snack for he and the kids and at the end of the night in the garbage the rest of it goes.... he will understand and go back to supporting you and in the long run it will help him and his weight also.... win win situation! !!! Best of luck ... 

Ok, so judging from your past posts and how lovingly you've described your hubby and his attentiveness after your plastics, I'm thinking that he's not being malicious but rather is in the throws of a carb binge. You know it and I know it, but does he recognize it? I remember that cycle all too well... eat the sugar, regret the sugar, crave it, buy more, etc. ad nauseum. Am I on the right track? You obviously know your husband better than anyone on an internet forum, so feel free to tell me to stuff it!

But it sounds like he needs to detox from carbs. Can you talk to him about all of this? If he's gaining weight, you know that he's noticed his own waistline! See if he'll consider carb detoxing for the next 48 hours (as a start) and tell him that it will be SO much easier after that... It sounds like your planned purge tonight will make him saying "no" all but impossible ;) Let me know how it goes!

Chrissy,

I agree that he is not malicous, and I also agree with the other posters that he is eating his feelings.  He is not explicity trying to sabotage me.  This cancer **** is just hard sometimes, and many times it is harder on him than it is on me.  He is the one that has to take care of my butt when I can barely lift a cup of coffee or can't get out of a chair or take a shower or.... just fill in the blanks with just about everything.  He gets scared.  He not only has to help me but take over everything around the house.  It is a lot to deal with.  I get why he is bringing so much in.  I just need to figure out a way to get him to stop or at the very least slow down.  I ended up not throwing anything out last night.  My daughter had her boyfriend come over and needless to say the bulk of the sugar is now gone.  The remnants will not be around long enough to due too much damage.  I seriously need to have a heart to heart with him, but need to figure out how to get it to resonate.  Otherwise it will just be a repeat of a conversation we have had a million times.  I am going to ask him to take me to support group later this week- it might help him, but for sure it will help me.  I am going to talk with him about the detox- he fortunately loves meat and fat foods, so it may not be such a hard sell.  

I'm so sorry about all you're both dealing with.  

I wonder if you could use the cancer as your springboard for the discussion.  One of the biggest drains on immunity is poor eating.  One of the biggest boosts to overall health is healthy eating.  His health is just as important as yours and for the sake of both of you he needs to be striving for optimum health as you recover.  

Best wishes!  Keep us posted on how it all works out.  

I HEAR you loud & clear.  My husband is tall & skinny & when we grocery shop it's like we're feeding two families, my healthy foods & his junky foods...I'm still having to cook two meals one for him & my daughter & something different/healthy for me.  My daughter likes some of my healthy meals but not all.  They are both just too DARN picky.  I really get annoyed with him he has a candy stash in his closet & now my daughter has Easter chocolates in her room, it's like they are hoarding food or something.  I thankfully have no desire for any of it but it's still very very annoying.

That's so hard! I am single and live alone, but I'm very close to my family and see them all of the time. They are afraid if I have a weight loss surgery I won't be able to have ''fun'' and eat cake and ice cream. 

So I'm worried what that will be like. It's hard when your greatest supporters can hurt your progress to a healthier life. 

I told my husband tonight (after seeing Easter candy everywhere) that if I see any candy I'm throwing it away without question and to consider this his warning. He got a little sad look on his face but he said he understood. 

I hear you! My love has a huge tub of vanilla ice cream in the freezer for his daily milk shakes (cause he deserves one after a hard day! LOL). Luckily, it doesn't bug me. He has learned he must never bring baked goods into the house without my permission. I once opened the fridge and saw a monumentally huge cinnamon roll dripping with cream cheese glaze threw my head back and looked to the heavens and very loudly exclaimed, "REALLY? FU*K!!!!" Him being a skinny, mini and not at all a food junkie like I, is totally supportive and doesn't bring stuff like that home without permission anymore. He doesn't quite get my issues, but it doesn't matter. He helps me anyway he can. (Something that amazes me about him is that he can take that cinnamon roll and eat half of it the first day and then portion out the rest over three or four days. I guess that's one reason he's pretty damn thin. Hell, he also "forgets" to eat!)

Anyhow, if I were you - even though you didn't ask, so take my unsolicited advice or leave it - I'd spell it out for your husband. Be blunt. He's gaining all sorts of weight back and if he wants to, fine, BUT, you don't want any part of it. Tell him point blank he's being a food pusher and you know why. You get it, but you went through a surgery to get healthy. You don't want to go back there, so he needs to keep it out of the house. If he brings it in, you'll throw it out. End of story.

He can eat all the crap he wants away from the house!

Thanks Devon,

I think I will call him a food pusher- that will resonate with him.  I am also going to ask him to eat that crap outside of the house.  I appreciate your input.

Me, personally, if my husband continued to bring in unwanted foods daily each and every time he put it down on the counter I would open it and dump it in the trash.  Hell take his bowl of ice cream and throw it away.

Let him have a hissy fit maybe he will realize what he is doing or maybe not. 

Good luck.