Vets - Your wisdom PLEASE on how to release excess weight "a restart"

So here I am 3+ years post-op never having lost all my excess weight - it's not so much a gain.  I've made myself crazy thinking & half arse attempting many things. And I have failed.  I need simple instructions that I can't jumble up in my mind.  I know nutrition, have read a ton of books, WW, OA, Therapy for binge/ compulsive eating -still I haven't gotten it right. 

I need to dumb down & keep it simple.  Help!  My sleeve is beautiful I just suck at refraining from food.  I am never hungry yet automatically choose to eat.

Tell me what to do and I promise I will do it.  I am ready to lose ALL of my excess weight!

With love & hope, 

Layla

P.S. I felt uneasy (who am I kidding, i was terrified) being thin post Lap Band)  I actually didn't lose the bulk of my weight w. The Band until the 3rd year.  Maybe its my time  with my Sleeve too lol.  Help 😕

Everyone says that WLS doesn't fix your head, and it sounds to me like you are eating for reasons other than to feed your body.  I have spent 8 months in counseling working on an array of issues, and find as each one is addressed, my dependence on food is lessened. I just had the surgery, so I'm in no position to claim victory, but your issue sounds like something a counselor would be best equipped to help you.

Good luck!

All the best to you on your new journey.

I feel better already just putting it out there.  

God, I work with all types of therapists/analysts - many are eating disorders specialists.  The struggle is real and always for many of them still (yep many of them have struggled or do struggle).  When eating is your "go to" thing, it's hard not to do it  especially when life feels unbalanced and you can.

No excuses.  It's just more difficult sometimes than others. I eat 80% healthy. My poor choices are 10 honey wheat pretzels(yep I count like I am in control lol) with a heaping teaspoon of peanut butter or a slice of Kraft cheese (sometimes I do this 2x's daily),  The Lite Choice soft serve with trail mix & a wafer cone (5days per wk - at my lunch break), maybe 1x per month I will eat an entire big bag of white cheddar popcorners(right before my period). Basically I do this every darn day -pretzels, PB/cheese.  I am very patternized.  I have to make a shift. I get nervous not having my pretzel supply - they're gone now and I have decided not to replenish my supply.

I have also incorporated lite wheat bread & non white rices in my diet more often than I should. 

The point is I am not binging or eating horribly but if I want to lose, I MUST clean up & drop the snacks & carbs.  

Thank you and all the very best to you.