I hate my sleeve

I don't recall mentioning calories in my original post.

You said "permanent malabsorption" - I said, not permanent for calories" - You didn't say nutrients or calories you just said permanent. We were on two different pages. You were on nutrients and I was on calories. A little misunderstanding.

I think we've beat this dead horse long enough. 

Excellent thread!  Lots of great information for us newbies...

Sorry you're having a rough time Ida, Im sure 90% of us here have felt like you do at one time or another...Hang in there sister!!!

Will do - thank you so much for taking the time to respond!  I appreciate it.

Ida- Im 5 days post op and understand. I think we tend not to want to vent our frustrations to our loved ones b/c we just spent months getting this approved and prepared for it, and afraid they will look at us and ask "What did you expect?" So, I get venting here, where we can all probably relate  at least in a small way.  I researched this for years, read this board for 3 years, talked to others who had it, I felt fully informed, but the truth is, when it becomes a reality for us, it's a little jolting. That is normal i think. I completely understood my post op diet, everything, and have had a fairly easy go of the surgical aspect, but that doesn't change the fact that things are VERY different for me and the rest of my world keeps on turning...lol.. I try to keep my thoughts in a forward direction even if it's just to the next 5 minutes.lol.. or I can get pretty down myself. Hang in there, you have ALOT of company on this board!

Good response! if I knew how to put up those little clapping hands, I would. LOL!

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Thank you - I am usually not a venter but I thought it was safer here than to my family who would have just said "told you so".  I appreciate your great attitude, it helps me.  Thank you.

Hi honey,

I'm so sorry you are going through this rough spot.  Knowing you are about to lose your dog must be so horrible, when I lost mine it devastated me. It's only natural you are having a lot of feelings right now. People that don't have food issues can't really understand how hard it is for us to just sit there and watch them eat....even if you knew this would be what would happen it does not make it easy! Holidays can be joyous occasions but they can also bring up a lot of emotions....try to be kind to yourself. I don't come on these boards very much because if I wanted to be beat up on I do a really good job of that myself. Please message me privately any time you want....with kindness and compassion...Liza

What a wonderfully sweet response - yes, losing my dog stinks - big time.  It's all kind of happening at once.  I appreciate your kindness more than you will ever know.  Thank you.