Im in the same sorta situation Connie,I addopted my cousins little girl when she was 5 months old.When my cousin came over with her three other kids i didnt want to tell her that she had other brothers and sisters or who she was but i didnt want to be put as i was trying to hide them or anything and i told my little girl that the kids were her brothers and sisters and that the lady had her for me,cause i couldnt have any and its not that she didnt love her she just wanted me to have someone to love too.She was fine with that,and hasnt said anything else about it.I now take her brothers and sisters one by one ofcourse every summer.She doesnt want to be with her "real" mom or be with the other kids lol,cause they fight like brothers and sisters.My little girls just fine.I think if you make a big deal of it thats when the child thinks hmmm am i supposed to be mad or something about this.My little girl was 6 when i told her and i think its a good age even though i thought waiting til she was old would have been better i dont now.I want her to get to know her birthmom and her brothers and sisters.I dont want her to be the outkast from the other kids when they get older.Her sister was up from N.C., to spend a month of summer vacation with us and she just turned 6 and my little ones 7 turning 8.They were great..Hope you work it out .Takecare

!!!!!!! I was also adopted in FL but paid a great deal of money to a search and support group. My birth mother was found after 8 days. They had a great deal of info to sort out but I received her name, address,phone and also my sisters info. I was told my closed file could not be opened to me.

My husband and I adopted a beautiful 1 year old girl last year- there was no cost to us, we also get adoption subsidies each month, and all of her daycare and health care is paid for. We did this through Downey Side Families for youth. I am not sure how many states they are active in, or if it is just here in Minnesota, but you should check into agancies like this. All we had to do was take some classes on adoption, do a typical homestudy, and get a background and health check. There was a really nice adoption worker there with us through everything- She worked hard to help us find our daughter! The only downfall of this process is that if you are looking for an infant, this wouldn't be the way to go, since most of the children are a little older, and most are in foster care. We really lucked out and got a very young child. It just seems so risky to me to give someone $10,000 and you are not even guaranteed to be matched with a child. I would reccomend that you do some more research- don't just jump into it because you are excited to be a parent. If you do decide to go with the Little Angel Adoption agency- ask for some references and see if there are any families who have adopted through thier agancy who you could talk to about thier experiences. Make sure they are extremely legit! Good Luck!

Hi I just read your posting. I can totally sympathize with losing a baby. I have adopted 2 children and have 2 bio children. If you still don't have a baby here is a little tip. Do emergency recieving. This is a good way to meet social workers. Tell them what your looking for. This is how I got my son at 1 mo old. In the mean while you get to play with a baby or two! Good LUCK!