Just need help with ...

Just need help with my boy. I know part of this is growing up but he has me worried. He is way out of control. His father kicked him out last week. Lock stock and barrel. I dont see how he can do that. I dont know where he is staying. I thought he was coming here, but has never come back home. He is 18, I do know that he went to his summer class that started yesterday. Which is good, but when I took him his lunch he just ignored me moreless and wouldnt even take the lunch from taco bell. I figure he is staying at his girlfriends mom and dads house. Which in my opion would not be allowed. I dont think it is teaching your child to make good choices for there future. At 17 and 18 to move into together with the parents, like life is a bed of roses. Well They had better wake up and do some smelling because those thorns do stick. That is something Bob and I also agree on. Kids can come home but girlfriends, boyfriends cannot stay in the home. They can visit but when you think you need to be together all the time. It is time to start looking into getting your own place. I thought parents where to always be there. Maybe shut off the money, and make them follow the rules as best as possible, but never throw them out. Thank God me and Bob agree on that one. No matter how mad we get at our boys, we never have told any of them to get out. We may tell them that the cant or have to do something. but never tell them to get out. I hope this isnt too confusing. But Am I wrong? love marie

I'm not seeing the out of control however I'm sure that could have been left out. What I am seeing is a 18 yr old kid expressing his wants to be out on his own. If his girlfriends parents are will to help get them on their feet well more power to them. Right now he might be mad that both his parents have seemed to turn their backs on him. I have to say that if it were me and my parents kicked me out the last people I would want to see is them. I dunno, I could be too young to know what I am talking about. Faith L 350/197/175

I didnt kick him out, His dad did and we have not been together for over 11 years. He is welcome in my home. He just has to follow the rules, which is school and/or a job.

Marie, I could never say that you are wrong, but i can say as a mother I don't neccessarily agree. There are certain cir****tances where I would absolutely through my 18 year old out. Drug abuse, breaking the laws, or complete disrespect for me are among some of the things I feel warrant a parent to kick there child out. Also, he is 18, no longer a child, but becoming an adult who needs to learn responsibility. Parents do not do their children any favors by doing everything for them and allowing poor actions without consequence. This is in no way saying your son's father was right, I don't know the situation, just giving my opinion. I hope everything works out for the best, whatever that may be. Karyn