Hit my 50 lb mark...WOW moment!!

I went back to the gym last night after taking all last week off for my tummy pain. It felt so good to get back in there. I didn't do quite as much as I was doing but still 10 mins on the tread and 25 mins on the bike. My big WOW moment was stepping on the scale and seeing 246!!!! WOOO HOOO that's 51 lbs gone forever!!! I started this journey last Oct. 10th at 297 and now I'm 246!! I can't believe it. I never thought I'd see the 240's again. I'm even hoping to see the 230's by July..hopefully..I'll be happy with 239 1/2..!! My back (or my back/butt valley) doesn't hurt anymore I hardly have one!! My knees don't hurt I can walk and walk and walk! We went and test drove a car this weekend and walked the lot and it was great. I enjoy doing the things I used to do. This surgery is amazing!! I was so skeptical at first and really thinking "what did I do" but now things are looking up,up,up!! The only downside of my wow moment was sharing it with my Jackass husband! I was telling him my good news and his response was: Jamie you HAD the surgery TO lose weight....so now your losing and you want me to be proud?? I'd be proud if you did it yourself but you took the most drastic measure to do it. I was shaking my head and thinking WTF??!! Is this man for real, are those words really coming out of his ignorant mouth?? I've never been so upset with him (okay I have but last night falls right in the top ten moments of wanting to slap him silly)!! I was crushed. I was so proud of myself and he just ruined it. I said who the heck is going to the gym and working out, who is eating these tiny little meals and trying to do everything just right?? It isn't you woofing down bowls full of chips, or having seconds and even third plates at dinner...I swear I wanted to kill the man. How dare he belittle what I'm doing and make out like I'm just sitting back watching the weight fall off!! I expect this from strangers or even relatives who don't know any better BUT for my husband who's watched me struggle and go through this entire process..for HIM to say such mean things to me, I just don't even know what to say. YES I do...screw him I'm damn proud of what I've accomplished. He can sit back and tell me I didn't work for it and I KNOW I did!! I think we should all be very proud of ourselves...this surgery is only a tool and it takes sweat, tears, desire, and more tears to get through this. I'm very proud of ALL my SMO (and former SMO) buds...that includes all the pre-ops as well!! You guys are the BEST!! Sorry so long but got mad at him all over again just typing the words.. HUGS TO EVERYONE, Jamie

Jamie, some people just don't get it. Don't let it get you down, keep on being proud of yourself! Well done on the weight loss so far and the exercising! Kix

You should be proud. He is prob feeling insecure. Men strike out when they are scared at all. You should feel better about yourself and gain confidence. It is pain and suffering and willpower and sweat and daily struggles and lifetime changes (not to mention the hoops you have to go through just to get it). No one can justify saying that surgery is the easy way to loose weight. Congratulations on your 50lbs that are in your past!!! Great job!!! Shellie

Jamie Girl you are so right. I am so darn proud of you. You deserve more then a pat on the back or words of encourgement. Your right this WLS is just a tool. If we dont use it right like were suppose to then it will do us no good. I am so very sorry that you didnt get the support that you was looking for. But sweetie and I know were a far cry from the support of a spouse but were here for you!!!! You hold your head up high you deserve it and dont for one minute let him make you feel like you dont deserve the praise cause you do!!!! Love you bunches!!!!! Melissa

Jamie, You should be proud of yourself. You are doing great, keep up the good work. And dont let a little ignorance get you down. Maybe he didnt mean it the way it sounded. Or maybe he is jealous or worried. love marie

Jamie I am so proud of you and you have every right and reason to be proud of yourself. I am so sorry that your husband said those things to you. He should be supporting you and making you feel good about yourself!! I know you know that though. You've done an AWESOME job, he can't take that from you. I hope he comes around to see just how much work you are doing! Keep up the great work Jamie !! Jacie

Jamie, I am so sorry your husband had to ruin your moment{{{{HUGS}}}}, you are ABSOLUTELY right, and I am proud of you too! He should be ashamed for saying those things, you have worked HARDER by having this surgery than if you did it on your own. I hope you decide to tell him how you feel about his words, because keeping it to yourself will only hurt you. Keep up the great job, and don't let ignorant comments by ignorant people bring you down. and Karyn

Jamie, Jamie, Jamie, I had no doubt about it that you could do it. I think most people do think its not that hard on us who have WLS and jus****ch the weight fall off. Well we all know out there in lala land that doesn't happen quite like that. I will not lie. I used to watch " I lost it" and some people would be on there after having WLS and I would be sorta like " well yeah!! Duh, you lost it, I could to with WLS lol" so until been in our shoes I guess reality cant hit. But I know he cares and all. Also a lil change here and there in you might be a lil overwelming to him and doesnt know how to express it better. No I am not taking up for him.. After almost thirty years of marriage, yes.. They can be (*&)(*&^$%#^*&)()_*. Boy that felt better to say lol... So you keep on doing what you are doing and girl you know what to do... You are a ga girl!! So cant always be so sweet and southern acting lol... SHOW YOUR ASS! It will make ya feel better to lol... Hugs Marge

i don't wanna flame the guy, or anything, but i'd of probably slapped him up one side and down the other. i know he's a guy, so he can't help it, but still... but you're female - you can multitask. so while you're putting your foot up his butt please pat yourself on the back, too. you so deserve it. this is anything but easy and for anyone to say any differently just shows they don't know what they're talking about. i've gotten subtle little hints from my husband. comments which he says he's kidding about, but i've always believed there's a little truth behind every jest. he's concerned. and with a divorce rate of 50% nationally and 80% post wls, i guess i can see why. but i'm not going anywhere. we've been married almost 30 years, too. he stuck with me through the worst, now we both get to enjoy some of the best. again, jamie, be proud. you're doing great. and try to forgive the thoughlessness. he's probably just worried. hope you have a great weekend. hugs dorthe