Daddy's Girl

Ok, So I have talked to my dad a few times about this surgery. I have sent him informative web sites, and he still thinks that this is way too harsh for me. Granted, I will be 35 this year and for the last 20 years I have been super obese. I am thinking that he is not really reading all the info that there is on WLS. I know it's my choice, and I have the support of the rest of my family, DH, and friends. I have a great support system. I just wish he would really understand what this means to me. We talk...he convinces me to diet....work on what is making me eat....I have been doing that for almost 2 years! I am hungry DAD! This is the same man that told me he would buy me all new clothes if I lost weight during my teen years....blah blah blah. He is afraid of something happening to me....When I asked him if he read the site I sent him...his response? Yes! and the SIDE EFFECTS Jennie! HAIR LOSS!!! What is that????? Does anyone else have a nay sayer close to them? I love my dad....but...I love me....more.... Sorry for rambling....

Hi there, i just thought I would respond here since I too, am daddy's girl. I will tell you my story. I decided to tell my dad I was having lap-band, he seemed to be less threatened by that, and went ahead and had RNY anyway. My dad was still not real happy about the lap band he thought I was getting, but i did it anyway. I told him the truth once I was home from the hospital, and he was VERY worried. However, 4 months and 111 pounds later he tells me all the time how proud he is of me for making this decision. No doubt once your daddy sees how much healthier and happier you are he will feel the same. Good luck! Karyn

Thanks Karyn! You are right, I am sure he will too. He worries just like your dad. We are some pretty lucky ladies! Thanks so much...

I am not a Daddy's girl but my dad really had a problem with my size all my life there was always the YOU HAVE SUCH A PRETTY FACE man I hate that when I told him what I was doing he really seemed like he knew every thing and that this would not work for me that I did not have the will power to loss the pounds and keep them off that really hurt me but now 11 months out I think he is proud of me we dont talk much but my stepmom says she is happy for me so I guess he is to not really close to any one in my family Mom did not come even come to my WLS and dad came after and did not stay long I really dont remeber him being there no one called I got flowers from my sister in law but other then that I was on my own thank god you have the family he will understand once you get those pounds off I just know it shelley 458/289/210

hi jennie: i, too, was a daddy's girl. about fifteen years ago i listened to my dad's worries and didn't have this surgery. i was about 100 lbs overweight and he told me it was too dangerous and i should lose it on my own. fast forward to two years ago. i had reached 450 lbs. could no longer live with the co morbidities, and decided it was time. i had missed playing with my kids while they were growing up. my daughters both also have weight problems. and i did some really terrible damage to my physical body - not to mention my nonexistent self esteem. i had wls in feb 05 and am doing so much better. thus far i've lost about 190 lbs. my dad passed away in july of 05, but was worried about me and my weight until he died. always telling me to take care but also that he was proud of me and that i had made a good choice. i know this for sure. things happen for a reason. perhaps i wasn't ready to have the surgery way back then. 15 yrs ago it was much more risky and if i had really, really felt i needed it, no one's opinion but my own should have mattered. i also know i cannot change the past, so i'm gonna enjoy where i'm at now and let go of that past. i'm fond of the saying 'yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. today is a gift - they call it the ''present''. and that's how i'm trying to live my life now. good luck with your journey, girl. i wish you the best and hope you continue to come back whenever you can. to share, to learn, to connect, to... dorthe