Wow I wasnt expecting this

I finally meet someone that had RNY also. She was at the restaurant in town. and a friend of mine interduced us. I thought I was doing okay with this I still dont know if I understand the emotions I am going through. I talked to her for about an hour. And came home and all I can do is cry. To find someone I can actually see and talk to is just such a shock to me. Someone that understands what I am going through. I mean I love you all and you are a big support for me but to have someone to talk to in person. I cant stop crying Why am I crying so much about it.

((((((((((((Marie))))))))))) I'm so sorry that you don't have anybody close by who had wls and can get some things off your chest so to speak. I heard that when we loose weight..hormones are released...the more you loose..the more hormonal??? I do recall a certain someone who happens to be getting married next week. Ring any bell??wink wink. That major event would make anybody feel pretty emotional about things. You've got a wedding coming up, and with that you have family stuff to deal with as you plan out your shin-dig. I know I went through some pretty emotional times when I was about as far out post-op as you are now. I was feeling very uncomfortable in my own skin and had so many emotions going. I didn't know how to deal with the way people treated me differently as the weight started to come off. I'd think to myself,"Gee, are people telling me that I'm looking good because I'm REALLY looking good, or are they saying I'm looking good because they know that I had the surgery???" I think that line of thinking comes from a person with very low self-esteem and didn't really know how to accept a compliment for sure!!! I'm doing much better now. Just give this thing time. Realize that your hormones going wacko is a normal thing for wls patients to go through..and when your a woman..and that time of the month comes along...well, can you say double trouble??? Hang in there Marie. There is a reason why they call wls "the ride of your life" Hold on tight..It's gonna be alright. HugsGinger

Hi Marie! I agree with what Ginger said! I'm sure it was just a relief to finally meet someone in person. I'm lucky because I do have some people who have had surgery in real life and my best friend and stuggled with his weight (though he lost on his own) so I am surrounded with people who understand. I think when we live so long as the only person we know who has gone through something or thinks a certain way, then when we meet someone else it's just so great to realize that you're not alone. These boards are great, but it's always a little different to have someone in the flesh to identify with. I'm glad you found someone. Good luck with everything. You've got a lot going on!! jacie

hi marie!!!! congradulations on your wedding. my 13th anniversary will be on june 25th. june is a great month. i married my husband at age 18 and we are still very happy and very much in love. we have had some bumps along the way but we have grown stronger in our marriage. i am so glad you met someone you could actually see in person to talk to. it really helps to do that. you are looking so good as well. you will be a lovely bride! also did you try the icecream recipe yet? i think it was you who ask me for it. if not i am sorry and i have just embarrassed myself. have a wonderful wedding and let go of those nerves. just try to enjoy life and what it has given you. its hard i know but hey where can anxeity get you? i was turned down again friday so i need to take my own advise as well. have a great night misty