DOES ANYONE ELSE LIE?

I don't often get asked about how much I've lost. When I do, I tell them. I work in a small office, everyone kind of knows everyone else's business. When I got my surgery date I marched right into my boss' office and asked her if she knew what WLS was. When she didn't (one of those tiny people) I laid it all out for her. She was impressed. When I was losing preop she asked me once if it was okay for her to ask how much I had lost (no one has ever asked me how much I WEIGH (well except my sister at the gym this afternoon, but she's post op too, and it was cool to watch her face when I told her)). I told her it was okay (that pre op diet was really tough, coming in and telling them I had lost 1, 2, 5 pounds was kind of motivating). She asked me just today how much I had lost. When I told her 90 I thought I'd have to help her put her jaw back together. There's another woman at work who asks me, but she's probably MO herself, and she all but cheers when I announce that another 10 or 15lbs are gone. I cannot wait until I hit the century club. I might have a t-shirt made. My birthday is in two weeks, I'd love to be there by then. "Hey it's my birthday, and I've lost 100lbs in 4.5 months. Woohoo!" The way I figure it, why lie? Losing weight is HARD WORK no matter how you have come to lose it. A lot of people see this surgery as cheating. I guarantee none of those people deal with a WLS patient on a day to day basis. If you don't want to tell people about it, then don't. If they ask -- tell them that you're still losing and don't want to jinx it. What happens when the day comes when you get to goal and you're down 100, 200, 300lbs? Will you tell how much then? Isn't it the same? So maybe you used to be 300, 350, 400 lbs or more. You're not that now, and with lots of work, you'll never be that again. Good luck! Julie

Yes! and I'll give you "Dear Abbey's" reply to the person who asks the question..."Why in the world would you want to know that?" Best of everything on your journey...E.

I generally don't lie, but if I don't feel like telling someone (like the jailbait lifeguard at my pool, e.g.) I say that I don't know. Which is true, because I don't weigh very often. I'm still at a fairly high weight (despite having lost at least 163 pounds as of two weeks ago), so I actually have to go to a hospital and ask to use their scale. I generally don't feel like it. So I say I don't know, which is the truth. As for the surgery part of it, I'm not ashamed of having had surgery. If someone asked my how I lost weight, I'd tell them. A lot of people who ask are people struggling with weight problems themselves. While I get sick of being the WLS information lady, I empathize with other fat people, and am happy to share info that may help. of course, these other people are generally 100 - 150 lbs lighter than I am, the skinny *****es If someone asked me what I weigh, though...that's rude, and I'd probably tell them so.