I NEED SOME HELP!!

GOOD MORNING EVERYBODY!! I KNWO I DO NOT POST ON HERE MUCH BUT I AM ON HERE EVERYDAY JUST READING ABOUT EVERBODY AND YOU ALL ARE SO WONDERFUL AND SUCH INSPIRATIONS TO ME BUT (THERE IS ALWAYS A BUT ISNT THERE). A FEW MONTHS BACK I POSTED ON HOW I WAS HAVING A HARD TIME WITH MY GRAZING AND EATING THE WRONG FOODS AND I JUST KNEW AFTER ALL THE SUPPORT THAT I HAD GOTTEN FROM EVERYBODY THAT I COULD BEAT THIS BUT I AM NOT HAVING SUCH THE LUCK. I DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO I JUST CANNOT CONTROL MYSELF WITH THE SWEET FOOD AND THE CHIPS. I DONT EAT ALOT AND I HAVE BEEN GOING BACK AND FORTH WITH THE SAME 2 POUNDS LOSING GAINING ETC. I KNOW I AM NOT DRINKING ENOUGH, THE PROTEIN DRINK THAT I HAVE LOVED FROM DAY ONE THEY DONT HAVE ANYWHERE ANYMORE SO I AHVE HAD TO TRY DIFFERENT ONES AND I HAVE FINALLY FOUND ONE THAT I LIKE SO THAT HAS BEEN RESOLVED BUT IT HAS 6 PROTEIN GRAMS LESS THAT THE OTHER ONE DID SO THATS 1 MORE DRINK A DAY FOR ME, AND I KNWO WITH MY WORK ISSUES AND MY ISSUES WITH MY SON I HAVE NOT EXCERSIZED LIKE SHOULD SO I KNOW WHAT I NEED TO DO BUT WHY CANT I JUST DO IT. I LOOK AT MY BEFORE PICTURES AND I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY THIS IS SUCH A STRUGGLE FOR ME. I DO NOT WANT TO GO BACK TO THAT LIFE AGAIN, BUT WHY DO I KEEP MAKING THOSE BAD CHOSES. I STARTED WITH MY WEIGHT AT 362 I AM DOWN TO 220-222 SO I HAVE LOST 140 POUNDS IN 14 MONTHS AND I KNOW THAT IS GREAT BUT I NEED SOMEONE TO PLEASE HELP ME BECAUSE I THOUGHT I COULD DO THIS AND GET BACK BUT I AM HAVING A HARD TIME. PLEASE HELP ME I KNOW SOMEONE OUT THERE HAS BEEN THROUGH THIS AND CAN GIVE ME SOME ADVISE. NANETTE

Nanette, I wish I had the words to solve your problem, but Im not you- I cant see into your mind to find what is going on that makes you want to do these things.(my crystal broke when I was born I guess) Only you can figure out the problem. I know that sounds rather harsh and uncaring of me, but its true. Im not being uncaring, I really do care and wish I could help you. I can tell you that I have grazed in the past and will probably do it again in the future. Why? I really dont know for sure. But what I do know is that when I get fed up with my bad habit I force myself to quit. I have used strange and odd ways to stop my grazing.. What works for me is making myself EARN snacks.. I have to do 1/2 mile on the treadmill if I want a snack that isnt scheduled.. and if Im in a grazing mood I find that after doing 2-3 miles on the treadmill it just isnt fun so I dont get a snack and the craving eventually goes away.. I have to be totally honest with myself for it to work.. No cheating! But that what works for me.. Its easy for someone to say "just stop". And having someone say those words just doesnt work! It can actually make things harder when your struggling so I wont say it to you!! What I will say is that Im here.. If you need support, a hug, someone to whine/complain to, or a kick in the butt- Im here for ya!! Amber

Don't be so hard on your self we all have one or two bad habits. I to have no problem when i eat the bad stuff (chips, doritos and sweets) try buying the snack packs it limits how much you can eat or just don't buy them, I know easier said than done. Don't put yourself down, in your life time did you ever think you would loose 140lbs? I' around the same as you about 223 and have lost 118lbs if i did not loose another pound i would still be happy. My life is so much better since i had surgery my back, legs and feet dont hurt. I got on a bike for the first time in 15yrs and it was amazing. What kind of excersing are you doing? I walk and ride my bike and do dvd workouts. try drinking your water with a crystal lite drop in or even the kool aid ones are not that bad (i.e. sugar and cal). I also do not get in the protein i just dont like the taste and i think i have tried most of them. Best of luck and stop beating yourself up. If you need to vent please feel free to email me. big hugs. Marie 341/223/165 start/current/goal

Nanette, I would encourage you to find a therapist who can help you figure out why you sometimes sabotage yourself. I think most of us had (or have) food-related habits we want/need to break. To do that, you need to learn to identify your "triggers" (meaning what causes you to eat things you know you should not), to identify the unhealthy thoughts that go with those triggers, and then learn to replace those unhealthy thoughts with new healthy thoughts. And you need to delve into why you are willing to sabotage yourself after working so hard to get healthy. That can be a very emotionally charged issue, so a good therapist can be immensely helpful in sorting things out and helping you move forward. If that all sounds like "blah, blah, blah" gobbledygook, then you'll understand why I started off suggesting that you find a therapist who can help you. It can be very difficult to retrain ourselves, but if you are armed with the right knowledge and dedication, you can absolutely do this. Best of luck on your continuing journey - Kellie

Nanette; Just so you know. I have not had the surgery yet, but you are such an inspiration and role model to me, just from the success you have already had. I so hope that I can be that fortunate, and I want you to know that I will remember you in my prayers so that you may move to that place you want to be. Continued good luck. Jo Ann

Thank you all for your support and helping me get through my crisis, I have been doing alot of thinking and it is stress related I think, I need to get to the root of the issue before it gets tio far out of control and with all of you I know I can do it. Thank you all for everything I have uped my protein drinks today and started drinking more also so that is a start. Does anybody know how much protein at a time we can drink without it going to be wasteful I guess I mean how much can we absorb at 1 time? Thank you again everybody. Nanette

I do the same thing if it helps you any, I know i eat the wrong foods do it anyway then bet myself up afterwards I wish there was some kinda of mental pill you could take that would turn of your crazing butto!lol best of luck Marlena!