22 Reasons Why You Might Be Fat Forever

This post is for those of us who have done well with WLS, but, maybe not as well as we'd hoped or it is just going much slower than we hoped. I found this from eDiets website and have it posted on my wall and read it when I need to really be honest with myself. I have lost around 150 lbs, I've been at a stall for about 6 months now. I really really want to get under 200. I weigh 237 now.... I hope it is helpful to you as it has been for me. We didn't get Super Morbidly Obese because it was only about food. 22 Reasons You Might Be Fat Forever (from eDiets.com) Are you frustrated with being overweight, and you don't know what to do? Usually we tell you what you need to do, but, here's a twist: We're here with 22 reasons why you're failing to make progress. Don't take it as a scolding, but as inspiration to get the job done. 1. You are still looking for a quick and easy solution to weight loss. 2. You think that diet and exercise are the only essential factors involved in weight loss. 3. You have not identified the psychological reasons that drive your eating patterns. 4. You have not learned to manage or heal the psychological reasons that drive your eating patterns. 5. You have a fear of or resistance to growing up and becoming a full adult. 6. You use food as a reward or a treat after any or all stressful events. 7. You think you can lose weight without making exercise a regular part of your day, every day. 8. You think you can lose weight by doing it "your way." 9. You expect to lose weight without making significant lifestyle changes. 10. You refuse to learn to become a good receiver as well as a good giver. 11. You have never learned to be effectively and appropriately assertive. 12. you have not learned to express your anger in a healthy, honest fashion. 13. You have not learned to be self-nurturing, except with food. 14. You are excessively self-critical. 15. You refuse to take responsibility for your life. 16. You resist learning to love yourself. 17. You resist learning to love your body before it is thin. 18. You have not faced your inner fears of being thin. 19. You are certain that spirituality (a connection to a force greater than you) is irrelevant to weight loss. 20. You think you can lose significant weight without the support of others. 21. You have deep emotional wounds that you refuse to explore and heal. 22. You are not prepared to have weight be an issue that you will have to face each and every day for the rest of your life. OK, now you have some incredibly important information about yourself and the things that are blocking your weight loss. You now have a choice. You can get depressed and go into avoidance or denial, or you can choose to make a renewed and informed commitment to your growth and well-being. The decision you make could change your life and your body for good!

Lori- This is just wonderful. Thank you so much for posting it. I am a 6 1/2 yr. post-op, RNY, and lost 140 lbs. Unfortunately, due to some of the points on your list, I gained back 20. I am now a member of Overeaters Anonymous and have slowly been taking off the regained weight. Thank goodness for addiction groups. I used to think they were just too woo-woo for me and all that god stuff was stupid. Not any more. I'm still not a religious nut but so much of the program makes so much sense to me and actually works. Group support, a sponsor, good reading material, meditation, exercise, a sensible food plan that isn't a diet...all that is part of the program and has helped me enormously. Thanks again The list goes on my wall and will be emailed to many. Madeline

Madeline, Thanks for your post. This list continues to help me. I also belong to Weigh****chers at Work. It is nice because it is a small group where we all get to talk. I may try OA. Glad to read your endorsement. Lori

Hey Lori, This list of reasons sure hit the nail on the head in alot of areas. Thanks for posting them. I think we can all relate to quite a few of them. I know I can... Hugs Marge

Hugs back at ya, Marge! We can do this!

Thanks, Lori. I saw myself is quite a few of those points. Why can't losing weight be as easy as gaining it?

Thank you so much for posting this... I shared with some other forums... hope you don't mind. It made me think about the fact that we do a lot of sharing about the physicality of weight - and perhaps not enough about the emotionality, the importance of support etc. etc. Lots struck chords with me, and definitely looking for ways to change the way I think aobut food and myself! Thanks again B

Lori, Thanks so much for posting this. I'm "stuck" in a physical, mental, and psychological place that I'm having difficulty moving past. I know I need to reexamine some of the reasons that caused me to become SMO and finally deal with them, especially if I want to be successful long-term. I think this list may be the catalyst that helps me move forward and I thank you for sharing it. Kellie Lap RNY 10/25/2005 396/226/165