Gym is Open (Fearsome Friday 6/13)

Happy Friday the 13th!  I did not have a good time visiting with my friends.  They acted all weird about my weight loss, making odd comments throughout our visit and acted out when I couldn't go out for dessert with them.  I didn't object to going for dessert, I was perfectly fine with not eating any sweets, but they said they would feel like pigs eating sweets if I didn't eat any.  I left early and feel like our friendship is over.  I guess that's not necessarily a bad thing, people change and grow, but I am sad that my weight loss and improved health seems to have given them such a wad in their shortsl Anyway, no exercise yesterday.  The gym is open, and I need to go work out.  What did you do to move your body today? Kix

And Happy Friday the 13th to you, as well.  This is the only Friday the 13th during 2008!!!   I'm sorry your friends had such a weird reaction to your weight loss.  It sounds like they just did not understand that you are still the same Kix with different packaging.  In my opinion, that's their loss.   I've done four days in a row of 2-a-days, and my body needs a break today, so I'm not going to the gym.  I'm going to run errands at lunch and stop at the grocery store after work.  I'm so accustomed to going to the gym at lunch time that it feels like a special treat to go out and run errands.  What a strange creature I've become...   I hope you have a good workout today and a great weekend!!! Kellie

My nephew (the one who went to dental school at Case Western) was born on a Friday the 13th (11/13/72) and he is kind of a squirrel, but I think that has more to do with his mother than his birthday!  I decided not to work out today.  The cattle dog needs some attention (our neighbor is retired and thus she spends all day with someone, so she hates that he's gone.  So, she wants to hang out with me all day and I have things to do, so she's at her house alone and when I pick her up in the late afternoon, she spends the rest of the evening yodeling).  Jodi and I are going to find one of the dog parks in town, and I'll take her there to run and I'll throw the tennis ball for her to fetch.  Then, we'll go for a long walk (maybe I'll take my metal detector).  The neighbors come back on Sunday, and I'll be glad.  I like Jodi, but I'm not used to constant companionship!  Is this what marriage is like?   Kix

I was also born on a Friday the 13th (10/13/1967).  Often when I tell people that, the response is "Well, that explains some things...."  Not quite sure exactly what that means, but I always enjoy Friday the 13ths!!!!   Enjoy spending time with Jodi - I'm sure she appreciates the attention, especially if she's used to having someone around all the time.  Dogs are pack animals and, dang it, they need to have their pack around.  Maybe you'll get lucky and find something fun with your metal detector!!!   Regarding constant companionship, some marriages are like that.  Personally, that would make me crazy.  Although there are three folks in my household, we all need alone time and not super needy.  So luckily, it works out.  I have a couple friends who can't/won't do anything unless they check with their spouse/significant other, and that makes me a little crazy.  But if it works for them, I say live and let live.... Have a great weekend!!! Kellie

My marriage is more of the constant companionship thing - not completely, but definitely that's the way it is.  Even our alone time is usually with the other person in another room.  I'm not sure why that is, but we do most everything together, and though we both have outside friends we prefer each other. I would always check with my spouse before I planned something though - not because I have to, but because I want to.  Its the respectful thing to do.  I don't think in my case its a needy thing, because before him I always preferred to be alone.  I think its more that he's one of few people I can actually stand and enjoy for long periods of time.  I've been curious, how does this 3 people in the house thing work?  Are you all dating, or is one a roomate, or what?  I didn't know if I should ask, but I've been curious for a while. 

You're description of your relationship with Ryan sounds much healthier than the folks I'm thinking about.  Plus, I get the sense that you would be willing to go out with your friends even if Ryan could not go for some reason.  The folks I'm thinking about wouldn't even consider going if their SO couldn't go.  We all have different things that work for us though; that's what makes life interesting.   In terms of my home life, I'm in a polyamorous relationship with two women.  They had been together for a few years before I came into the picture over 14 years ago.  We did not plan on becoming polyamorous, it just sort of happened and the three of us have been together for about 14 1/2 years now.  We're all very different people, and there's gaps in our ages (I'm 40, one of them is 49, the other is 57).  But this just feels right and works for us, even though it's more complicated than most relationships.  We're as committed to each other as we can be, considering that we can't legally get married!  

Anyway, that's the story - hope you're not sorry you asked!

Kellie

That's really interesting, and very progressive.  I don't know a lot of people who can manage a relationship with one person, much less two.  I'm glad it works so well for you!  And oh yeah, I'd be willing to go out with friends without him, planned or unplanned - I'd just check with him first.  We both do that, and I know what you mean about people who only do things together.   Whatever works, I guess, but that is a trifle annoying, especially if you don't like both of them!

This this isn't really a work-out thread :) I'll join in. Kellie thanks for explaining your relationship in the household. It's very interesting to me. I'm glad it works for all of you. My marriage is like Jenn's we spent a lot of time together, but yet we do go do things with friends on our own. We don't have to ask each other permission, we do it out of respect for each other. As for dogs - our Great Danes feel the need to be so close to us that if you stop walking you'll get a nose up your butt! They feel like they have to get up and follow us every time we leave the room! Talk about pack animals! Try squeezing 2 people and 2 Great Danes in the bathroom together!! I did walk today!

Kix, don't worry about it too much.  Some people just don't deal with change well.  Today was a lack lustre workout for me.  I had to run an errand for work so all I got to do was upper body weights.  I felt strong, but I hated missing my cardio.  Gosh that sounds so very odd to me that "I hated to miss cardio." Isn't it amazing the transformation that our mind goes through following this surgery.  I hope it sticks and isn't temporary!