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Thank you for this board! I started out with 64 BMI and after 2 1/2 years still have a long way to go (75 pounds to my personal goal size of 16) I think one of the hardest parts of this now that the honeymoon period is over is how not to compare myself to those who started out on this journey just a few pounds heavier than I am now and in a similiar or shorter amount of time they are at goal.. I know I got myself up to the weight I was at all by myself and if I had had the surgery when I was only a hundred pounds overweight I would be at goal now too, but I am still feeling frustrated with myself and can't help but acknowledge the feelings of unfairness that I don't think I will ever get to a normal BMI, but will always be obese. Thanks for listening... can anyone relate? Kathy

OMG you said that so eloquently and succinctly, kathy. it's exactly how i've been feeling lately and it's so good to know i can come to this place where people feel that same stuff i've been feeling lately. thank you. i'm just now at the end of my six month honeymoon period and know this is when the 'real' work sets in. so i'll be back often, with good news and bad, just to share. thanks again, girl. you really nailed it. dorthe

Kathy, Welcome to the board! Please dont beat yourself up! You have done so well...but dont seem willing to give yourself much credit. Dont dwell too long on the "woulda,shoulda,could'as". And give yourself a big pat on the back for what you HAVE accomplished. I know this probably sounds like so much blah,blah,blah......sorry. But I feel in general women arent very willing to take credit for things that were very hard to do..but you did them anyways. GOOD FOR YOU!!! bridget

Hi Kathy, Welcome!

Welcome to the board, Kathy. I have a very high BMI 68.4, and I worry a lot that I may not ever get to a normal BMI, even after surgery. I hope that being here and sharing with these wonderful people will help you feel the support you deserve. You have done an amazing thing for yourself. I am so sorry that you are feeling frustrated, but please know that you are not alone. This journey is so much easier when we can go through it will others *****ally do understand. Take gentle care.