NON-WEIGHT LOSS QUESTION

I have a 6 year-old daugther who's father has not been a part of her life since she was a little over a year old. Well, i just started recieveing child support from him and his ex-girlfriend who has another child with him also. say he his asking her how to see my daugther now. I don't want this at all. I don't want any part of him or the problem that come along with him but i think i will be legally made to let him see her She doesn't even know him! any advice on this? on how to keep him away if he comes around? I just really wish he would have stayed gone.

I had a simular situation as yours. If you are interested in the details please email me at [email protected]. Georgeann

Marlena, We're both in Indiana and I can tell you this about Indiana law. Child support procedings and visitation procedings are completely independent of eachother. What that means is that the fact that he's paying child support does not give him the right to visitation and if he ever gains visitation and stops paying child support, his lack of payment isn't an automatic revocation of his right to visitation. He's got a huge hurdle to overcome. He will have to explain where he's been for the last 6 years and why he hasn't felt the need to participate in her life until now. If you have serious concerns about allowing him to visit, the court takes those into consideration. Be strong. Brandy

Thanks Brandy, i really just want to him. But hey, he owe me over $15,000.00 in back support if he takes me to court i do believe that I can take his car, and i know i will get his tax check if he files. that is (mexican, legall but mexican) and im not sure what else i can take do you?

As far as I have seen, the only thing the court has to leave him is a livelihood. Not a big one, just enough to get by on... house payment, food... that sort of thing. Everything else can be considered debt relief.

If he is a danger to her then the court will not allow visitation. However if this is a problem between the two of you and not one that will endager your daughter the court is mandated to allow visitation which is considered what's best for the child. If drugs are an issue make certain testing is involved. If he is not an evil person it would be better for your daughter to know him. In later years she may want to find him and wonder why you didn't want him around. Kids are smart....if he isn't a good person she'll figure it out.

This may not be popular, but my son's donor owes me over $25K. He has seen him a few times, but my son really doesn't know him, my son is 10. However, the times he did see my son, I gave him full access but with my full supervision. I guess I never want my son to be able to say that I did something to keep them apart. Neither of them can say that. He has called a few times too, and my only rule is that nothing is promised. Hope this helps. Sharyn

i gave him full access to her when she was born on the grounds i was around because he had threatened me to take her to a different country. He seen her only maybe 4 times, i did allow him to keep her for a few hours one day while i went and did a few things and the whole time i was gone she tried at his door, until i came back. he couldn't get her to stop crying for me. even as a baby everytime he would hold her she would cry, and it is because she didn't know him. She say's now a 6 (like she knows) that she has father and doesnt want him as hers. But, she's 6 and i think she affarid it will hurt her "daddy's" feelings to want to see him. I just don't know. i dont trust him to come into her life and stay i think he will come she'll get use to the idea of who he is and then leave then i'm left with why he did that do her.