Heart to Heart

Hi Susan, I see what your saying about the "can't lose the last of the 101 lbs i had to lose" While, I feel for them and know that they also have a difficult time with their weight it's hard to know exactly what they're going through and I wonder how some would feel if they had as much to lose as myself or others. I just hope that everyone who needs or wants this surgery to improve their health and way of life is able to get it. ((hugs))

Hi Danielle I am so glad that you are posting now too. There isn't a single thing on your list that I cannot relate to as well. Thank goodness for this board and the bestest people are here too! Huggs, Ruth

Hi Danielle, Ruth is right. (I bet she doesn't hear that too often) The people here are the best. I was telling my husband about some of you here on the website. I told him about how cool it was to hear about the highs and the lows of us folks that need to get the surgery. I am post-op. I told him about Ruth and Bridget aka Willby who, like me are waiting to get approved. He then asked me,"What will you guys talk about after you all get the surgery?" I guess my hubby doesn't get it. It doesn't matter where you are on this journey. Everyone here has been there, bought the t-shirt. We all long for the same things....good health and happiness to name a few things. I can, and always will relate to everything here. Thanks for all of your support you guys ROCK! Virginia

Virginia, You know.. your husband doesn't get it.. you're right. Most people don't. I tell them about this site and the people on it and how it makes me feel to come here and they're like.. "but you don't even know them" and I just give up lol.

Hey Guys!! I just noticed that I said in my previous post that I was "post-op" I don't know what I was thinking??? I AM PRE-OP! There I said it. I guess it was just wishful thinking-LOL. I, like many of you am so emotionally involved in the process, that I don't know what I will do if I don't get approved. Virginia

Hi Ruth! ((hugs)) and so glad to meet you!

Amen, Amen, Amen to all that you've said! You are all the greatest! Blessings!

I agree... the GREATEST!

I relate to your list. I had to chuckle about the elevator thing, I have a system I go thru when I get on one. I know if I just step on, it will bounce and people get scared. So, I learned to put just the front of my foot on and gradually put the weight on it, and there is no bounce. Can I add.. snow and ice. I grew up in Kentucky and I was not a graceful kid. Falling was an event and I had an uncle who used to shout " now we got to call a wrecker!" Darn him anyways. I am still paranoid about greasy floors and such cause I don't want to fall. I am not quick with comebacks either. Wish I was. When I'm out in public and someone says something ( usually a group as they they get brave then) I stare and wish I had a good comeback. Does flipping the bird count? I always thought, hey, we are human too and have to get out among the living and people just need to get used to it. When a little kid says something, I smile and educate them. Once, when I still needed my scooter, I was in a music store and a little girl commented on the size of my knees. I smiled and told her yes, they were big and they need to be because God made me a big lady. The mom just looked embarrassed, yet relieved. I will always post here. I started out at a bmi of 70+. God has seen fit to get me down to a lower bmi, but there are so many things a larger person needs to share with other larger persons. Like a sister or family would. Like, clothes, bras... rashes, sex, trying to move and exercise, back aches and what helps, and so on. Blessings to all of my 'of size' family! Tina - 208 (in bad need of an updated photo)

Tina, would love to see your updated photo! I'm not good with comebacks either.. I'm getting better, but I have a hard time with confrontation and usually am nice enough not to say something mean. I just comeback at them as they all seem to think we'll just slink away and cower in homes. I wonder if they even know that days, weeks, months, years later we're still thinking about "that group of kids" who made fun of us ... Flipping the bird does count ((hugs))