Questions fill my head with the passing of Angel Angie, Need Advise!
I would just like you all to know how grateful and lucky I feel to have found this board and to have found all of you.
I was not sure what kind of reaction I would get to this posting
... For me, while I am very aware of all of the risks... I make a conscious effort to not think of the them. I try to surround myself with supportive people
and while I am interested in the opinions of 
nay-sayers I can't believe that if in my (or our) situation
, they too, would not try to do everything possible 
to make their quality of life better... or at least bearable.
I want to thank you all for your advice
... I have taken all of it to heart and I fell better about my decision and more prepared for the process.
I think that a lot of my fears come from that fact that it is elective and I could not imagine doing something that intentionally took me away from my family who needs me right now more than ever. I know that this goes both ways and with my weight, I have just as much chance of dying due to health related risks. I know that I could easily die in a car crash or some other related incident, and if it is my time it is going to happen one way or the other. I guess what I have been struggling with and what most of you have said is that it comes down to, is my quality of life right now worth not trying the surgery??? Or how I also see it, Can and will I put myself and my needs above those of my family and friends? Am I strong enough to do what is best for all of us, despite the risks? I'm sure I will struggle with these questions every day until my surgery and then, the day after when all is well, I will look back and think, 
why did you worry so much... it was a no brain-er... lol!
In any case, I wish all of my fellow pre-oppers best of luck and know that my thoughts and prayers are with each and everyone of you.
I was not sure what kind of reaction I would get to this posting... For me, while I am very aware of all of the risks... I make a conscious effort to not think of the them. I try to surround myself with supportive people and while I am interested in the opinions of nay-sayers I can't believe that if in my (or our) situation, they too, would not try to do everything possible to make their quality of life better... or at least bearable.
I want to thank you all for your advice... I have taken all of it to heart and I fell better about my decision and more prepared for the process. I think that a lot of my fears come from that fact that it is elective and I could not imagine doing something that intentionally took me away from my family who needs me right now more than ever. I know that this goes both ways and with my weight, I have just as much chance of dying due to health related risks. I know that I could easily die in a car crash or some other related incident, and if it is my time it is going to happen one way or the other. I guess what I have been struggling with and what most of you have said is that it comes down to, is my quality of life right now worth not trying the surgery??? Or how I also see it, Can and will I put myself and my needs above those of my family and friends? Am I strong enough to do what is best for all of us, despite the risks? I'm sure I will struggle with these questions every day until my surgery and then, the day after when all is well, I will look back and think, why did you worry so much... it was a no brain-er... lol!
In any case, I wish all of my fellow pre-oppers best of luck and know that my thoughts and prayers are with each and everyone of you. Most Active
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