The Big Lug!!

hi people, Just curious here. Has anyone ever heard the line "I love you but I'm not in love with you"? My DH (that stands for dead hubby, not dear hubby) laid that one on me 2 weeks ago. Gee! we've only been married for 27 years. Do ya think he might have found out a little sooner???? I was hurt,but i'm ok now. He is in the army reserves and was called up to go to Iraq in 2003. he was there for a year. he came back a changed man. I personally think he has Post traumatic stress disorder. but you know men......They are stupid-strong. Cant admit that there is a problem. Dont worry about me.......i'll be fine. I just need a little feedback. Yesterday he said "maybe we can work it out" WHEE!!!!!!!! I'll just wait for him to make up my mind already. Sorry for the b$^tchin' and moanin' At least I have you guys. willby PS: Is it illegal to squish your own husband to death?

Hey Willby, Hang in there... I cant amagine being married that long and telling you something like that. I have been married 27yrs as of this Nov and it would be a blow to. First to me then to him(on the head) lol.I know alot of things have happened to him from being over there in Iraq but dont let him take you down and feel this way. You have alot going on also and need his support. But hey.... Waiting till he makes his mind up wouldnt be one of them. I think you deserve the full treatment after all these years as would I. Be there for him and talk to him if can get him to open up BUT also be there for YOU. As you know from us having this surgery soon.. LIFE is to short.. I will yak with ya and be there for ya anytime.And by the way.. the line he gave you is as laim as "I think we should just be friends" lol hugs margaret

Margaret, (((((((((((hug))))))))))))) Thanks for caring!! willby

Sandra, ((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) Thanks for the info and support. I squished and i feel much better!! willby

Hey girl sorry to hear you had to endure that I understand how painful that had to be. Yes you can squish him and I'm sure if you need help there are plenty of us to assist ya Hope everything works out well for you. Have a good day. Anita

Anita, (((((HUGS)))))) Thanks for the caring! How soon can you be here to proceed with the squishing? thanks willby

hey wilby sorry you are going thru this. yes i have heard of this. i had that problem a couple years ago. i think love is something deep inside. in love is that new date feeling. the excitement of someone new. its what made you fall in love. i thought that i was missing the learning something new feeling. i knew his answers before he spoke. he was predictible. i will always love my hubby but i thought i wanted more. i wanted excitement. he is like a carosel. he is predictible and safe. you know that the carosel is a smooth ride. but then i look at the roller coaster...its a thrill ride. it gets your blood pumping its a rush and we all long for that rush. i dont know if i explained it very well but that is how i figured it when i was having these feelings. i had to fall in love with him again. i have to work to remember what made him attracted in the beginning. i hope that helps. email me if you want to talk hang in there diane in minnesota ps i think squishing is a no no

Diane, ((((((((((((HUGS))))))))). thanks for your kind offer! it means a lot to me. Your definition struck home also. I'll give him a new date feeling.......right between the eyes!! Thanks willby

Wilby, I think after 27 years of marriage it is not only LEGAL to SQUISH your husband but it is MANDATORY!!! My butt is atleast a 1/4 ton if you need it!!! Really though... all jokes aside, I wish you all the best. Right now is not the time to have to go through this... try to keep your focus on you and this WLS. I'm sure that when all is said and done... whether it works out between you guys, or not... he will be the one regretting letting YOU go. I just met you and I wouldn't even dream of it! I'm here if you need me! (((Hugs))) Sipele

Sipele(birthday girl) ((((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))) You are soooooooooooooooo sweet!!!!! Thanks for lending me your butt!!! But , you know, i think this is going to take a really really really big 3/4 ton butt (and I know just where to find one)!! You are the nicest girl!! willby