help me! i need reasured

You, guys im getting so scared, my surgery is about a month away. And i can't help but think what if...i die, my body doesn'ts want the surgery,what if it don't work, what if im so hungery and can't stand it, what if what if what if lol, im scared i will die most of all thow! just give me a few words of hope thanks Marlena

i am a pre op but from talking to everyone hear i think u r perfectly normal i think you would be if u were not so it will be ok you have came this far and will be so happy on your rebirthday try to keep a positive aspect to it good luck love candy

Hey Marlena!!! WOW only a month left.. no wonder you have the nervous nellies!! Hang in there and it will get better. Good news is you're perfectly normal. This is a major surgery.. This shows that you've done your homework and you understand there are risks.. But, don't lose sight of why you chose to pursue this surgery either. There are many risks with being obese as well. You know in your heart you've made the right decision.. just hang in there and instead of dwelling on it.. come here and hang out!!

Marlena, I sure wish I had some words of wisdom for you... I know I go through the same thing and and I think it will probably get worse when I have a date. Just keep thinking about what your life will be like if you don't have the surgery. You've done your research and your prepared and now the rest is in your surgeon's hands. Please know that all of us are here with you through whatever fears or questions you might have. I am pre op but I will be here to hold your hand or lend a shoulder to cry on whenever you need it!! I really feel like you guys are family, we understand each other and know what its like to drag around these fat suits and how miserable life can be. Take some time for yourself and do something you really like to do, it might take your mind off your fears for awhile. I just wish I could give ya a little hug and tell its gonna be okay. I'm thinking about ya....

marlena i would worry if you didnt have those feelings. it is perfectly normal to be worried. this is life changing. i had my surgery in january and you wont feel so hungry you cant stand it. i thought that too. but you body knows whats happening. As far as the fear of death, you and your maker needs to come to terms with that. i think that God has my number and when its time im gone. I did worry about that though and left it as relaxed concern. You will do fine. im sure of it. diane in minnesota

Di, I really really liked the phrase you coined....."relaxed concern". It makes so much sense.Thank you! willby

good morning, marlena: ditto on what everybody else has already said. i remember when i had mine done - i did exactly what they're saying. realized i had done my research and i needed the surgery to live, then i gave it to God. it's all in His hands anyway, right? seriously, stressing yourself out for the next month won't do you any good at all. come on the boards and talk when you need to. i know it helped me enormously. just take it a day at a time and start listing things for yourself that you look forward to changing after surgery. and as for being hungry after surgery - it happens, RARELY. and you will truly be amazed at the blessing of not always thinking about when, what, and where you'll be eating next. it's the thing that surprised me most. hugs dorthe

Marlena, Pre-op here too. I go through bouts of "everything will be ok" to bouts of"WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING?????" Everyone says its pretty normal though. My date is October 24th. My date is october 24th(!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) My date is october 24th(?????????????????????????????????) lol take care and I will be here for you, we can cry, laugh, complain, and be scared together! willby

Hi Marlena, I too went through these same thoughts a few weeks ago and very well may go through them again as my date gets closer. I've talked with everyone and they all said to go over the pros and cons and make my decision based on that and my research. I understood all of that but it still didn't me feel any less scared. One day I was talking to my gma and she just said to make sure that I was right with God and no matter if I had this surgery or not that if it was my time to go and it was God's plan for me then there was nothing I could do except make sure I was right in my heart and since then I just keep thinking about that and I have become more relaxed and comfortable with my decision. Feel free to come here and post or email me if you wanna talk, but I totally understand what you are going through as I am sure the others do too. You are perfectly normal Take care, Anita